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  1. I regret building a life with you. I loved you with all my heart. I always just kept waiting for you to be happy. We have beautiful children together, the one thing I don’t regret. Other than the kids, I wish I never met you. You were always in a sour mood. You put everything above me. You were a selfish and boring lover. You fought dirty, a quibble about running out of milk would have you screaming that I wasn’t a man and was fat and lazy. You talked about me behind my back to your friends and family. You never communicated with me on our relationship, dreams, or future. I showed my love 1000’s of times only to be cast aside and not recognized. Even still, I loved you with all my heart. I would have done everything and anything for you. You asked for the divorce and threw me to the curb like a piece of trash. I left with nothing, it was devastating. Ten years we were married and like that you cast me aside, changing all of our lives forever. No talking, no counseling, no emotion. You even divorced me behind my back. I had no say or input in anything. I’m finally at the point where I’m happy you did it. My eyes are open to the nasty monster you truly are. I am really happy now without you in my life. You held me back for so many years, you are dreamless. Good luck to you. I hope one day you find another man that loves you and the children like I did, they deserve it.

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  2. I regret being homophobic and transphobic. To anybody that is LGBTQ+ I am so sorry. I mean I realized I’m bisexual now so jokes on me, but that still doesn’t excuse the stuff I said. An example would be in class we watched a movie and the teacher asked us to name examples of deviant behavior and I said “like…being… gay I guess because the girl in there was called a ‘dyke’ and it was looked down upon in the movie” I didn’t mean to say being gay is wrong just meant it like in the movie it was but I knew openly gay people in the class including the teacher so I can see why I was wrong despite apologies to them. I’ve also said some highly homophobic sh*t in ’09 when I was questioning my orientation a bit like ‘ha Bob Saget rhymes with F*****t’ and ‘You look scared, it’s like you saw a Gay’ (instead of ghost) and ‘it’s okay to run from the alter if you find out the bride used to be a dude’. I still think bad thoughts but I keep it in so now I am
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  3. I regret not trying to be more extroverted or social in school. I should’ve talked more, but I was to shy and because of that I’ve been outcasted, never had a relationship, sat alone multiple times, had temporary friendships, nobody to really call a best friend, my first kiss, been bullied for basically anything multiple times including by fake friends that I never got the chance to stand up to, and missed out on half of the childhood experience.

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  4. I regret never talking to the person I liked. I did sort of once but it was through a friend. I never been intimate and let my shyness get the best of me. I really should’ve taken a chance despite dodging bullets. My life would be better if I did once, but now I wonder what could be.

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  5. I regret watching pornography for the last 16 years of my life. Even if it was an occasional, four times a month habit, it still destroyed my sense of beauty, purity, and respect for the opposite sex. I am sure I could have been much more of a gentleman had I not consumed porn. The scariest part is that I still feel tempted to click the links and see more.

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  6. I regret being such a nice person towards those who didn’t deserve it. I can’t stop thinking about this one person in particular who took advantage of my kindness last year. In reality, I believe that she doesn’t care about me at all. She probably just smiles and says nice things to me to cover up how she really feels. It hurts to realize this now, but I’m glad that it hit me later instead of never. This year will be a lot different.

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  7. I regret lying to you about having certain people in my life. I wanted to make you jealous so that you would give me more attention and love. But, doing that only pushed you away more. It breaks my heart to know that I may lose you behind people who aren’t even in my life. I’m such an idiot! You’re more important to me than you could imagine. I’m so sorry. I love you.

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  8. I understand what you coming from, I had been there myself. But for now on You should try to put yourself first , be honest about how you feel and it is okay to say no to people.
    Is okay to be nice to people but never put them before your own need and feelings.

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  9. I regret caring. I hate that my exes words burn in my mind “you’ll never find someone” that was 5 years ago. I hate that I care too much and jump too far. Now you ha e a girlfriend and guess what, it’s not me! It hurts that I fell for you, that I jumped 20 miles ahead of where you where” I hate that we weren’t ever more than friends but in my mind it truly felt like you wanted something more. But no, now you have a girlfriend and you’re moving to a new state to be with her! It hurts because I have no idea what I did to mess it up and it hurts even worse knowing that you are leaving here to be with her, what did I do wro g? I’m sorry I cared and I’m even more sorry that I still care!

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  10. It is never too late to stand up for yourself and put your as a priority.
    The pas is the pas we cannot change it, today is only possible tomorrow is not promise

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  11. I regret cheating on my husband and carrying on an affair for nearly 2 months. I regret not telling him my thoughts before I acted on them because we could have talked through my feelings without causing any real hurt. I regret feeling good about the affait at the time. I winder if I will always feel gulty and if he will always feel hurt. I regret lying to many close friends to hide my secret. I regret that we now have to hide our own secret to maintain our image.

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  12. i regret getting married to my wife as i had the opportunity (within seven months on one hand and five years on the other hand) to have walked out of that courtship but went ahead to accept conditions that wasted my life for 13 years and had left me a looser academically, morally and materially. Now i am still fighting to get a divorce from her since 2006.

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  13. I regret being affraid of performing my thoughts or ideas when i know im capable, i regret not listening to my own voice thinking it doesnt exist or isnt good enough. I regret that my relationship with the person i actually still love didn’t work out because of their drug addiction and mental health issues. I wish i could tell them how much i still love them and how hard its been to live without them in my life. But i cant for my own mental health issues.

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  14. Grass is always greener across the street .
    It is sad what you and your husband going tru unfortunately betray and infidelity are two things no human being will forget and it will always be the elpehnnon the room
    For the rest of your relationship.
    I hope you and your husband can find peace and happiness

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  15. I regret assuming you only wanted a boott call when we first talked. I didn’t know you very well and I just assumed that was why someone as handsome as you would even contact me. Then we lost touch because of your girlfriend, that I now know you were trying to escape. You contacted me two years later saying you always thought of me. We met that night. I fell head over heels in love with you. Acted like a fool. The over excited pushy female that comes on to strong and I pushed you away. Even though we had sex and have the most amazing emotional connection and are now 1 1/2 years into the best friend ship ever, I’m still so in love with you it’s killing me. She is horrible to you. But you stay. Is it because she is younger skinny and blonde? I’m older fat and have more grey hair than I should? I tried to stop your wedding. I wanted to tell her about us so she would leave you. I failed. I regret the things I did that you don’t even know about. I have sat outside your house and cried, even though you didn’t know I know where you lived. I’ve called her work and told her you were cheating. She didn’t care. I know where your new house is, but I’ve never driven to it. I love you so much I’d rather die than than see you with her forever. I feel like our friendship is fake. I know why you come around. It’s because I have bought your friendship with expensive gifts, and pills.
    Even though I suffer and go with out I will still give them to you because it’s the only way I get to see you. I hate myself for it. I hate you for marrying her a year after meeting me and having sex and secret nights at my house together. I want to stop taking your messages, I want to stop seeing you, I want to stop giving you my very much needed medicine. I buy you presents that are very expensive and I have no job. I take away from bill money or don’t buy food to buy things for you so you will like being around me. I regret not seeing that first night because all of this may be different. You may not be with her. I always tell you how mad I am and I’m upset at people for making me feel used. I always say it’s someone else, but it’s you. I wish I could stop loving you. I wish we had never met because then I wouldn’t feel like this. You don’t know how mentally ill I am. I e never told you. My level of depression keeps me living in a constant state of suicidal ideation. I want to die when you’re not around and I feel like the only person in the world when you’re around.
    I regret trying to stop your wedding.
    I regret our sexual relationship.
    I regret loving you so much I can’t date anyone else
    I regret telling you I make money selling art, because I’m on welfare.
    I regret not seeing you that first night in 2012.
    I regret acting like a psycho when we met in 2015.
    I regret telling your sister all about your horrible wife’s comment about wanting you to die.
    I regret caring.
    I regret “buying” your friendship.
    I regret everything.
    I regret meeting you because now I love someone who doesn’t care.
    I regret sending letters to her about us.
    I regret calling her work.
    I regret sending gifts to your house for her from a fake guy so you’d want to leave her.
    I regret being alive. Nothing worked because I was so stupid to think you would ever actually want me. I’m disgusting. I regret everything because I love you so much I’m sacrificing everything in me to show you love, so you can go home to her and lay with her in your arms. You slept with me because she would sleep with you. I think you sleep with her and use me when it’s convenient. I’m so mentally destruovee you im seriously considering asking my doctor and therapist that you know nothing about for a mental health admission to escape you before I kill my self. Or die from heartbreak.

    38, female

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  16. I will regret getting caught by Old Mother Jones, my worst, cruellest and most vicious childhood enemy, for the rest of my life.

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  17. I regret not ever having a girlfriend, not even a one night stand. I got married at 43 to a woman considerably older than me and it more of a partnership than a marriage. We each benefit from it, but it is not love.

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  18. I regret spending a single moment in private ‘therapy.’

    I tried, diligently, several times, to find useful advice, techniques, and methods to understand and alter an ultimately failing marriage. All I found was a preoccupation with a non-existent mental illness diagnosis.

    I regret finding the incredible value in “relationship education” so late……where I ultimately found a far better and larger understanding, a needed foundation for making useful accommodations and alterations.

    I regret not finding (and I didn’t look hard enough, either) ‘older person’s advice, council, and observations regarding many, many things in life. (maybe we just have a severe lack of forums?)

    male, age 68

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    • I regret not finding the ‘edit’ button.

      I do know how to spell and use the word ‘counsel,’ properly.

      This had been a marriage of 33 yrs–two great kids (married with degrees and good positions..out on their own); no unemployment, no money problems, no addictions, no disability, no crushing in-law problems, compatible religious belief/practice, support for her pursuit and completion of MBA and MD degrees……in a couple of words “HIGHLY SALVAGEABLE” in my not so humble opinion.

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  19. I so painfully regret letting myself get back up. I regret always trying to help others before myself. I regret telling someone close about my biggest secret and it shattering her mind. I regret feeling so much pain for those around me. I regret choosing to block my heart off with anger with the belief it would protect me. But most of all I regret the immense psychological pain I put my self through being raped by my mom’s uncle when I was only 4 and I never told anyone because he threatened to kill my brother who was 3 and now your growing up and don’t have time for me anymore. But true regret is feeling alone your whole life and now your not but the feeling is still as strong.

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  20. Making a desicion of marriage it is hard. Making a desicion of divorce is even harder but living a miserable life is out the question.
    I believe you still hve time
    To find happiness

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  21. I regret not trying to kiss Lisa. I know she wanted me to . She loved being with me. And I loved being with her. I think of her every day.

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  22. I head you show on the BBC this morning and it had a great impact on me. I realized how many regrets I have in my life and needed to express them. They have weighted heavy on my heart for many years. So I decided I needed to express them and get them out and re-open my heart.
    I regret taking my first cigarette at the age of three. Stealing my fathers Zippo lighter and Old Gold cigarettes and going out to a lot in Coney Island near our home and smoking. I got caught and was spanked. I regret that my family were addicts and it set a pattern for me also. I have smoked for over 50 yrs. and now I want to quit and it is so hard to quit. I regret that it has effected my health.

    I regret that before my father died I did not tell him how I felt about him and what he did to me, how he treated me, humiliated me, raged at his son, and was not a father at all. He did the same to my brother who died at 23yo. from heroin addiction. I needed him so badly as a father. I didn’t tell him because he looked so pitiful but I wanted to. I went to his funeral more out of duty to my mother than to see him buried. He was dead to me emotionally many years before.

    I regret I was not more honest with my feelings in my relationships. I felt so needy and weak inside i went along and did not say what I felt. I so needed to be wanted, needed, respected i sold out. I stayed longer in relationships than I should have. This built resentments over time. I regret not having spoken my truth. This made me resentful and angry. It should have not made a difference what the other person felt I should have put my feelings on the line and lived with the reality. Either stay and be honest, work it through or get out of the relationship.

    I regret not taking better care of myself. I regret not struggling through the difficulty of change. I regret finding myself angry at other people because I have not done what I needed to do. I wonder if I am giving and caring because I need to be needed or if this is who I am really.

    Shel Silvertein wrote a play/film called Little Murders. This is how I feel when I don’t live my truth. I feel I kill myself off a little more each time I don’t.

    May I have the courage to change, be loving, commpassionate, emphathetic, and caring in my life.

    Male
    68yo.

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  23. I regret playing it safe; I should have been braver. I regret thinking small, being fearful, afraid to get hurt. I regret pretending to the world that everything is fine, while inside I feel dead. Even now I’m not sure I could say that in public. I regret holding out for a ‘better deal’ and letting an amazing relationship slip away years ago; now I get to think about her every day. I regret not fully appreciating that ‘the love you make equals the love you take.’ I regret embracing the cheap thrills of online pornography, it’s a hard habit to break. I regret not fully exploiting the career opportunities I was given. I regret not being the man that I know I could and should be.

    Male, aged 52.

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  24. I regret ever having met R.M. I regret having been drawn into his web of lies and deceit. I regret having wasted so much time attempting to help him become a decent human being. I regret having tried to have a meaningful relationship with him, having shared my family and home with him. I regret having believed in him, and having allowed him access to anything that mattered to me. I regret having cared for him. I regret having ever thought he was capable of honesty of any kind. Most of all, on behalf of myself and all the other people he has conned, I regret that he exists.

    Dozens of people, ages 15-70

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  25. I regret living my life in fear. Fear of teasing, fear of bullying, fear of no one loving me, fear of being confident, fear of being successful at whatever I did, fear of standing up for myself, fear of claiming my space in life, in taking charge of my existence. Fear of being accepted, fear of expecting to be respected, fear of feeling entitled to be happy. Especially fearing I could be happy. I am female, widowed, age 65.

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  26. I regret being born to parents who did not love me. It is so hard to make up for not knowing love. I wish I could heal that wound. I never feel worthwhile, never believe I am worth loving. I regret how my shame and self doubt doomed relationships, and made me fearful. I regret withdrawing and letting myself go. I regret this total absence of pleasure in my life. I feel so dead inside.

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  27. I regret not going to college when I was in my twenties. I didn’t think I could do it with 2 little kids and no family to support me. I raised my children in poverty. I regret not having more courage. I started school when I was 42 and at 46 am not sure anyone will ever hire me, no matter how good my grades are.
    Female

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  28. I regret sleeping with this girl in my church. She loved me so much but i coudnt return that love. I regret being unfaithful to God and i regret playing with her feelings.

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  29. I regret not knowing soon enough I was impoverished. Not impoverished because lacking money and the assorted goods and wares it can buy. Those things abounded throughout my first 35 years. I regret not realizing before I did that to remain in the United States of America meant being poor in ways beyond the usual measures. I regret not leaving the United States of America, never to return, sooner than I did.

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  30. Male – age 36
    I regret being introduced to pornography and masturbation at age 11. I am fighting porn addiction to this day. Although I am doing much better now in resisting the temptation (thanks to my relationship with God) I still slip in moments of weakness.
    In the moments when I slip I feel so horrible and far from God, and I have to fight feelings of condemnation and it is an absolute struggle to pray. Thank God for His redemptive nature…that is what keeps me in those times.

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  31. I regret wasting so many years of my life waiting to be who I already knew I was due to fear of the unknown and what ifs. Had I not let so many years pass me by maybe things would have turned out differently for me. Instead, I played a role and searched for love and the need to belong in all the wrong places and spaces. I suppose it’s better late than never though the course of life has now changed.

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  32. I regret losing my virginity to you. I regret allowing my body to be used like a toy…having no confidence in myself to start off. I regret not embracing who i was and needing other people’s approval

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  33. This morning a girl did her tedtalk on keeping secret regrets and how writing them down helps rid the mind of any anxiety caused by them. So she mentioned this website. And we’re going to give it a try. Also I have been listening to the same song on repeat for two days now and it’s beautiful and pretty much ties to this with time moving forward such as the lyrics: “nothing can be changed, the past is still the past” but the artist also says “I should have wrote a letter, explaining what I feel, that empty feeling”. I’m all about letters. I love writing them. But most of the time I write letters to people full of peaceful and happy feelings. But this regret is an empty feeling. So that is why we are here.

    I regret ruining my relationship with my parents over a boy. I regret ever letting it go as far as it did where I was constantly lying and feeling the deep sorrow of regret in my stomach every time I would lie straight to their face to cover up hanging out with him. It’s been months now since any trouble has happened and I still feel the guilt. I feel the guilt still now even though I am no longer lying. Everything I do now I feel as if I should be suspicious and deceiving. I can’t shake the feeling and every time I come home I still face my parents disappointing stares because they have every right to suspect I am doing something I shouldn’t. But I cannot confront them on it and say that is no longer who I am because I am holding so many secrets in my heart. My relationship with my mom was never strong to begin with and now it is completely severed.
    I regret fighting so hard to try to get them to understand. I regret trying to get my parents to see what I did in him. I regret being so vulnerable and open to him. I regret it every day as his texts are a reminder of all the pain I have suffered through and caused my parents to suffer through for over a year now.
    He tells me he would go back. He does not regret it. He knows how badly I’ve ruined my home life. He knows all the secrets and the hiding and the covering up paths. He knows it was all off the record. He was fine with it. I regret how fine he was with it. He should have knocked me back into reality to tell me I am an idiot–although I understand 100% it was all on me and my fault entirely–but now he tells me he would go back and live it all again. And I ponder it over night after night. I would not go back. If I could go back simply to the simple moments with him. All alone I would. But I would not go back to the constant fights with my parents. I would not go back to the tears and the hurt and the worry and disappointment in my moms eyes.

    I regret still having feelings for him and having small doses of hope that things will someday work out. I regret still texting him and wasting hours of life still wanting to be as we were in the summer.
    I regret being so young and thinking it was all worth it.

    I finally regret how long this is. I have never been one for short and simple and this proves it.

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  34. I regret viewing pornography for the first time as a child many years ago. Since then it has set in like a terminal cancer and slowly started to destroy every aspect of my life, emotions and personality. I sincerely hope it’ll leave me one day but til then I am cursed by my own actions and mind.

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  35. I bitterly regret being talked into having kids. Everyone told me I’d be a “good parent” , I’d love it & my life would continue. WRONG! I hate it, I have no life at all, can’t do the things I like to do & live in abject misery & despair When they’re old enough to look after themselves I’m leaving. I dont hate them, I’m just not the parent type.

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  36. I bitterly regret being talked into having kids. Everyone told me I’d be a “good parent” , I’d love it & my life would continue. WRONG! I hate it, I have no life at all, can’t do the things I like to do & live in abject misery & despair When they’re old enough to look after themselves I’m leaving. I dont hate them, I’m just not the parent type.

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