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139 thoughts on “Post Your Regret HERE

  1. I regret never living up to my potential. I can trace that choice to a specific assignment in 6th grade – afterwards I plaguarized almost everything, including feelings for others, including my 30 year marriage (which I also regret). Sometimes the reason a marriage lasts 30 years is just because you never got divorced, and when you want to, you can’t do it financially. So a life wasted, for the most part. Sometimes I’m fairly sure I’m a sociopath (no remorse, mimicing others behaviors) but then I realize I’m not because there are those in my life I love and I spare them from knowing the real me. I’m fine whenever life is over because it seems overwhelmingly pointless.

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    • I regret to follow my dream first instead of working and earning money by myself.
      I regret to study for my future first.
      Keeping spending parents’ money still makes me sometimes live in dark.

      “Keep going, you’re so brave to live abroad.”
      “Oh you’re just a willful girl who chose to keep spending parents’ money!”
      “Oh why don’t you just go to work and earn money for yourself and parents??”
      Some people support me but I’m tired of those who look down on my future and also hate myself, the one who keeps regreting the decisions made by her own and keeps spending others’ money.
      Always thinking about whether the decisions I made for life are good or not makes me upset.

      It’s so hard to give up choices that seem to be better but I met after making unchangeable decisions for life.
      Hard to say goodbye to the current life.
      Hard to forget those good choices that I can’t choose.

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    • Forgive yourself and move on. You think you’re a sociopath but are you really just numb? Even in your marriage you can start living life for you. Go camping, go hiking, join hobby clubs, go go go. Enjoy life anyway!

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  2. I regret from al my heart of destroying my ex boyfriend’s life. We were together for 3 years. we had a age gap of 14 years. he was a divorsee. We were in love. Suddenly all changed. I went on a trip with my friends. A guy proposed me for marriage and i thought it would secure my future. I came back.. i behaved very badly with him and also told him i cannot marry him due to family pressure. I asked him to marry someone else for his fmily sake. 6 months later, i realized i truely loved only him and wanted to go back. He fought with his parents to marry me. His mother went into shock because of the fight. Now he has agreed to his parents choise despite he loves me. Today… i can see him miserable. He has withdrew himself from everything. He does not talk to his friends. He doesnt meet them. He just goes to work and comes back. He is ready to marry someone whom he hasnt even seen. He is just living for the sake of living. The only person he talks to is me. I wish i wasnt selfish. I wish i did not do what i did. Its killing me everyday. I try to commit suciide everyday. but i fail. I dont have any courage. I am just a waste shit in this world.

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    • Sound like my ex wife did to me now, after the big fight we had last month, she ask me to move on and want a divorce with me, and told me that after the marriage she reliaze that im not that man for her future and didnt even want to have kids with me! and told me that im a piece of shit that cant provide enough finacial support and emotional support for her. I bet there was a guy there that make her to insist the divorce and not give me any hope or chance to save our marriage, i ask her wether there was other man involve in our relatioship? she avoid the question and focus on attacking my inner personality.

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      • Two years till this day, I never understood why she walked out on me. Now I know, it was because of another man. She never had the decency to tell me. Your wife sounds just like my ex. Move on and enjoy your life. You deserve better.

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    • Once you are through the potholes, it doesn’t pay to look back. You might miss a beautiful rainbow ahead of you. Good luck. I do hope that you won’t succeed at suicide. . . . really, I do. Life can be beautiful.

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    • It’s exactly same situation with me except characters, the difference between you and her is that you feel regret about but she has no idea what she did with me. 😭

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  3. I regret my entire life, I regret not telling my parents the girls next door did things to me and it’s effecting me 10+ years later, I regret every person I’ve ever dated they all treated me like crap, I regret staying with one and wasting 7 years of my life!! I regret leaving him with everything i had worked so hard for he should have started from scratch not me. I found someone I loved who had to leave overseas but I met someone knew 5 years later and it’s been a shit show the entire time, one baby later, a thousand struggles and his gender dysphoria killing our relationship. I regret everything so far in my life

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  4. My biggest regret is not having an abortion 7 years ago,I wasn’t ready to be a mother,i was just afraid id never get another chance to have a baby.
    I didn’t want to end up like my mom and the thought that I could be better than her pushed me to keep my son.
    But I’m not better than her,perhaps I’m worse.
    Now I’m stuck in a marriage with a man who resents me ,I feel trapped and want to start over but I’m tied down to my obligation to my son.
    My son is scare of me because of my temper and very unhappy.
    If he didn’t exist my life would be different ,if he didn’t exist he wouldn’t have two miserable people for parents.
    Female,28

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      • You don’t have to stay in the miserable marriage. If you move on, get child care so you can do things you love and have some alone time.

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  5. A little less than a year ago i was driving home late at night no street lights when i accidentally hit a lady who was laying in the road cops said it wasnt my fault she was most likely hit by someone else who took off but from the second i got out and realized what i had done the guilt will stay with me forever the first couple months were the hardest after finding out every detail about this woman i could from her young daughter to her mom who had lost a son as well some years ago and listening to everyone tell me its not my fault and i should just get past it and i kinda did for awhile after the first couple months went by things kinda settled down until recently i happened to be driving down the same road it happened same as i had done countless times before i swear i saw her laying there again and i froze as it all came back to me now i cant sleep when i do i have nightmares and ive started to zone out at random times and it replays in my mind its all i think about now. the guilt and shame is all consuming

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  6. I was a young haole girl trying to survive in urban Honolulu. Worked 12 hours as a topless dancer/cocktail waitress at a dive a near Pearl Harbor, then drove a couple of my co-workers to an after hours club where they danced naked. That’s the place I saw a woman smoke a cigarette with her punani [vagina]. One night there were a group of really really old local neighbor island men. It was one gentleman’s 92nd birthday. They were ancient. His friend took me aside and asked me if I would go to a hotel with their lifelong friend. Even though they had told him that I wasn’t one of the girls working the club, he only wanted to spend time with me. I was young and sexy and working in the sex industry. But I said ‘NO’ and I regret till this day that I didn’t give that old man the Aloha and attention he deserved in his final times. It would have been a privilege. I missed a golden opportunity to make a beautiful difference in the life of another.
    Female, 65

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  7. My biggest regret is getting married to an emotional abusive man. A narcissist. We dated from the time I was 13, he was 16. Even as we dated, there were more tears, than happiness. I could never break up with him, because he would emotional draw me back in. He would say he was going to kill himself, without me. Couldn’t live without me. He also was very insecure and possessive of me. If I talked to another boy, he was mad. Very mad. But would also cry and tell me he knew I was going to leave him. He took me from my friends and was mad if I ever I to do anything with them. I quit sports, because he couldn’t stand the time it took away from him and he always thought iwas cheating on him, when we were away for sports. Or really anytime I wasn’t with him. Somehow, we got married and had children. And aside from our children, I wish I’d I never married him. It’s been 25 years. And I still want to leave. And he STILL says he’ll kill himself.

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  8. My biggest regret is speaking out.
    I have been sexually assulted for over a year by my ex boyfriend. I had always planned on abstinence and was hurt when in the end I didnt get that. But I stayed with him and kept it all to myself. Now I am in the army and one day after it happened again I cried to a friend of mine who told a higher up in my company. I was asked if I wanted to file a report and I said no. Later when that higher up came to me, he tricked me into saying it wasn’t consensual thus he filed the report for me. Taking the situation out of my hands and having an investigation start without my consent. Which to me is just as bad as the charges placed on my ex. Now they are pursuing rape charges on him and I am stuck here without my best friend and not being allowed to talk to him or see him. His whole life is ruined because I said anything to begin with. Our whole life is ruined. I still love him, and it is fucked up that I only realize it now.
    I wish I never opened my mouth.
    19, Female

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    • Let it go. A man that assaulted you is only selfishly taking for himself something of yours without your permission, to meet his own needs. What are the chances that behaviour style doesn’t get worse as he becomes older and life pressures get worse?

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  9. I regret the times I was a monster, a bully, a manipulator. I regret believing so often, that the situation was at fault, not me. I regret that my sons have to live with the consequences of my being a great mom one day, and a monster the next, an equation that equals: bad mother. I regret not being able to find a way to destroy the monster in me. I regret clinging to my regret. I regret not being able to find the courage to tell people who like me now, just how bad a monster I was. I regret living this current life, this lie, where I can’t tell my story because it’s not just my story, but for still wanting to, planning to, writing in secret, selfishly, for the slim hope explaining things from my perspective offers of my own redemption. I regret that my motives are still those of the monster, still selfish. I regret wanting relief from hating myself, when I don’t deserve it. I regret wanting redemption, no matter the seriousness crime, in the form of a close relationship with my sons. For wanting everyone to get over it so I can. I regret, seriously regret the things I did that resulted in my doing a life sentence away from them. They are right to distance themselves from me. I regret not really meaning what I just wrote. The truth is, deep down, the monster believes she has been tried unfairly, circumstantially, and has not been given a chance to point to the situation as the real culprit that destroyed our bonds. I hate that by saying that I’m making excuses. I regret not changing, not really, not deep down where the monster lives. (woman, 59)

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  10. My biggest regret is gaining the weight back at 18 when I could’ve kept going and starved to death. I didn’t want to be here then and 12 years later I still don’t.

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    • ❤ I think losing weight is the hardest thing! You can quit drinking, you can quit smoking, doing drugs and having affairs. You can NOT quit eating.

      I think losing weight is the hardest thing ever. It WILL happen when you're ready. It happened for me. Funny enough when I went to college I gained the typical weight. Before, I was a closet eater, sneaking into refrigerators and pantries when all in the family were sound to sleep. After a few years of college I began to see things differently. The food I was eating at 11pm, it didn't satisfy me at all. The first bite was the best, after that…. blech.

      You will get there when you are ready. I promise.

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  11. I regret standing in and up for my children when my H was a raving lunatic. Drunk and verbally even emotionally abusive. I regret fearing that if I stepped in, it would simply make it worse (for them). I regret hiding the truth, asking my children to focus on the good, reminding them that he too, was abused in many ways.

    Although my children are successful, happy, and praised by MANY, I regret not being strong enough to leave since he refused to cange.

    I. REGRET.

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  12. I regret letting a 29 year old man do sexual stuff with me when I was 16. Just over a year ago and I had a high school boyfriend (who I am with right now still) while I did that. I feel terrible and I wish I never saw him or even let him touch me. I didn’t say no I just went with it at first I wanted it and, I was gloating but my stomach drops when I think of it. I hate it and I hate him for not being the older man he should have been and just never did that stuff with me. I haven’t been able to think about sex the same because I’m filled with disgust and regret. If you’re reading this please don’t have sex with an older man while you are a minor…

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  13. I wasn’t a good enough boyfriend. I Was socially awkward and that drove her away. It is because of me doing that, She said it when i asked her about it, i’m not mad at her or anything just myself being such a dumb ass. I never did anything right and now that shes moved on and i’m still sitting here stuck on her hits like a truck. I seriously fucked up and this is unrepairable. Cant stop going back to the whole ‘its my fault thing’ but I guess that’s life.I just cant fucking stop.

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  14. When I was in fourth grade Halloween rolled around and like every other kid I wanted to have a costume that no one else had. After weeks of wondering I thought it was a great idea to dress up as one of my favourite Disney characters, Pocohauntus. Back then I had no idea what I was doing was cultural appropriation. My race stole so much from aboriginal people and completely alienised them from their own culture. Wearing their traditional clothing was a complete disrespect for them and I am so ashamed that I wore their culture as a costume. They deserve to be respected and they have suffered too much and they deserve to be brought to justice

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  15. I regret so deeply not living my life the way I want to and living it based on others. I never participated in any school activities I never went to proms/ homecomings . I never had a boyfriend and I am still a virgin . Now I am 20 almost 21 years old and i am sitting at home crying an weeping about how badly I want a good live but can’t seem to pick myself up. I’m constantly thinking about how one day I will die and how afraid of death I am. I am deathly afraid of growing old and seeing my mom grow old although it is the circle of life. I hope to pass this depression soon as I would like my happy self back any day now . 😦

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    • Get help now. That’s the first thing that came to mind when I read your post. Get help for your depression and you’ll start to see things fall into place. Trust me, I was you more than 10 years ago. Unfortunately, I didn’t seek help in a timely manner and guess what? Nothing changed. In fact, things got worse. Depression robbed me of my 20’s so I had to start over at 30. Better late than never, but it could have been sooner if I took better care of my mental health. If you don’t have support from your family and friends, speak to a doctor who can refer you to a good therapist. Also, seek a support group. The latter will definitely help you get out and socialize with others who can relate. It’s a great opportunity to make friends and you’ll feel less alone in the world. I’m telling you this to encourage you because it would sadden me to know that another person suffered the way I did. You can have the life you desire. You just have to be willing to fight for it. Don’t give up. You will win. Best wishes!

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    • Whether you’re a virgin or not doesn’t matter. What matters is what you focus on. What makes you happy? What do you want to do? Walk on the beach? Study for a career? Go hiking in the mountains? Join a hobby club and meet people? Go plan and do it. You’re so young. Your life has just begun. If you fear death, read John 3:16 and Romans 10:9 (google them).

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  16. I regret losing the love of my life. I was stupid, scared and insecure and I ended up destroying an amazing relationship with a woman who was also my best friend. It’s been over 2 years and I still think about her several times everyday. I still love her and it hurts to know I may have destroyed the best thing that has happened to me in over a decade. Now, I am scared I may never be able to love another person as much as I love her. I wish I could turn back the hands of time and correct all the wrong choices I made when we were together.

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  17. I regret snooping. I got the answers I wanted, but I regret I had to go behind your back to do it. I feel shame and guilt for what I did, but I’m furious that I’ve been lied to. She’s toxic and manipulative, but you’ll always love her more than me. And I hate it. F/30

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  18. I regret not doing enough to get my child back. I regret having three abortions. I regret having them out of spite.
    For years, I’ve kept those things from friends. Including a friend who is unable to have children. Friends who now have children. I have four nephews, yet, it’s hard for me to be around people who have children. The only person who knows is my mother, and she’s not here.
    F/34

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  19. I regret succumbing to temptation, curiosity and loneliness, and had sex with you. It was the best ever but whenever I have sex with my partner, I think of you. I hurts to know that you are sleeping with other people and I was just one of many. And you have moved on while I have not. We started the fire but you left me to burn in it.
    M/38

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  20. I regret not being mature and man enough to fight for you. I let a controlling and clinically depressed mother destroy us. After so many years, I still play the sound of your voice in my head. I miss our brutally honest talks and how that made us realize we were soul mates. We are both married and have moved on. I remember how sad we both were when we knew it was going to end and we talked about a reunion in Hawaii for some years after our inevitable break up. How sad.

    My secret is that I think about you often,. I miss and still love you. You will always be the love of my life. I feel constant guilt about keeping that from my wife. Shes a good woman and a great mother.

    Forgive me but I just love you still.

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  21. I regret not choosing you…

    I regret knowing in my soul that you were everything that I ever wanted and needed in this lifetime.

    I regret staying with him out of loyalty when in reality you were the one for me…

    I regret that its too late now and you moved on..

    I am grateful for you and that you showed me the possibilities of pure spiritual intellectual love and freedom.

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    • I’m also grateful to meet him. He saw me and I wasn’t invisible for 5 weeks at least. I could express and be myself. I learned that I had no idea how to deal with it and how much it can hurt.

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  22. I regret spending almost a decade with the wrong woman. She reeled me in with her manipulative charm, and once she had her claws in me, she ruined my life. She was borderline, overly jealous, a cheater, a thief, a pathological liar, a narcissist. I gave up a promising career with little chance of reviving it now. She stole my identity and stole money from me, then lied about it. She broke federal laws to screw me out of more money. When I finally left her, she stole my belongings and tried to steal my car. (luckily she couldn’t get away with that one) She was “criminally insane”… but the only one that actually saw the truth was me. Borderlines are very good at duplicity. She was my boss and she ruined my two careers, the one I wanted for myself (by taking me away from it) and the one in which I worked for her (because she slanders me when I need a job reference)

    I regret that I gave up time with good friends and time for myself to raise her ungrateful children. I regret not reporting the abuse she delivered both to me and her children. What I wouldn’t give to reclaim all the lost time and live my life on my terms. From here forward it’s all about me.

    Word to the wise…. Live YOUR life, not someone else’s.

    M/50

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  23. I regret outing my partner when they came out to me as trans. I’m in so much pain, and I didn’t know how to go on in secret anymore. I regret so much admitting weakness to my friends. I regret outing him. I regret that I let this awful secret out. But I want to live more than I want to die, and holding this knowledge and pain inside of me all alone was killing me.

    I regret not being stronger.

    F, 30

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  24. I regret leaving my first husband. He was the greatest guy, and he treated me like gold. I think about him every single day, and wish I could get together with him to tell him how sorry I feel. I’ve talked to him throughout the years, but unfortunately, he is remarried and his wife is very jealous.

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  25. I regret SO MUCH not being the sweet, kind and soft-hearted daughter my mother always secretly wanted me to be. She’s a sweetness, so amazing, so full of forgiveness for everyone who ever hurts her including me, my father and even members of our own family. She’s a hard workaholic always trying to make me gain confidence and pretending my mistakes don’t matter even if i know I’m a disappointment, a manipulative mind, a spoiled daughter and a horrible monster who holds grudges and is always evading her reality taking it out on others but not recognising my faults, someone who is always trying to look innocent or like a victim despite being aware of my double standards and my stupid righteousness.

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  26. This is less of a regret, more needing to post my secret that I swore never to tell anyone and it is giving me anxiety keeping it in.

    Backstory: My Mom is diagnosed with Anxiety but this secret is some Acute Paranoia shit… My parents divorced badly and when my sister and I were ordered by the court to visit my Dad, my Mom made him out to be a monster needing to be feared. Despite all of his past in the Navy, including things that were redacted from his records, he is still our Father and did what he could to show my sister and I that he loves us.

    Secret: My sister recently cleaned out our freezer at home (my Mom is a chronic hoarder and will never admit to it) and found a strange object: Cheek swabs of her from when she was 5 years old. Apparently some exist of me (age 8) from the same timeframe: When my parents were getting divorced.

    We think our Mom was so paranoid that our Father would kill me, my sister, or the both of us that that she saved our DNA to help potentially identify the body /bodies if either or both of us disappeared.

    I agreed to never tell anyone but my anxiety is too high and I needed an outlet.

    I HATE coming from such an abnormal family.

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    • You’re not alone. My father’s side of the family is full of murderers and even a domestic terrorist. My father himself is anti-social personality disorder, aka psychopath. If you want someone to talk to who has similar experiences and problems, I would gladly try to help. It can be very frustrating and downright maddening. I still struggle with the scars my childhood left on me. If you’re interested, I’ve set this post to alert me of new comments and posts. Maybe we can exchange emails without everyone seeing it.

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    • You need to gain your personal power back. You are not your mother. Abnormal describes them, not you.. You define who you are, what you become and how you live your life. You have matured beyond that crazy life. Put your stake in the ground and live your life the way you know is normal 🙂

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  27. I regret these feelings I have for other people while being engaged to someone else. I can’t help it, and it eats inside me… I never want to cheat. I’ve cheated before and I don’t want to repeat history. I’m scared that one day I’ll slip… Why does this have to be my struggle?

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  28. I kissed a girl and I liked it. I really, really liked it and I’ve been craving more for 8 years… But that’s not who I am.

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  29. My biggest regret is not listening to what the love of my life was trying to tell me. I know i can’t blame myself completely but I feel i just wasn’t wanting to listen. Now i look back and of course i wanted to listen her and her feelings. I just didnt understand what was being said. I am 36 and she was the first woman i truely fell in love with. I regret not trying to make it easier to talk to me or offering for us to go to counseling together. I look back every day since we broke up and think about what could have been. I have lost the one person that stuck by me

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  30. i made alot of mistakes in life many by choice or on purpose recently i regret throwing 10 dvds away rare ones uk region 2 all speically michael man.miami vice & collateral 2004 of tom crusie.damn ill never forgive myself for this stupidity.throwing things away in garbage becasue i have ocd.i will forever regret. that,i feel like what was i thinking.i feel sad.

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  31. I regret that when I was younger, so many years ago, I touched another person younger than me, now I realized it was a big mistakes, it happened to me too, so I did not think about the consequences of that I done, now I feel remorse for that time. How can I forgive myself.

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    • Hello, anon. I’d like to commend you for your courage for admitting to your mistakes. It’s a sign of strength. You ask how to forgive yourself, which is a good thing to ask. I know that our society has become incredibly judgmental and reactionary; people are swift to send you to the gallows. I didn’t focus on your mistake; I focused on the fact you were a victim as well. People tend to forget that the people who create victims are victims themselves.

      I can’t answer your question, and nor can anyone else. It will likely be long and difficult, and the path to self-forgiveness is always unique to the one who seeks it. Look at yourself and the nature of your regret. Do some soul searching. Perhaps the answer is in advocating for awareness about this problem. Becoming an active member in ending it. I’m not suggesting it one way or another, but attempting to provide a place to start looking. I hope you can find the peace you seek.

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  32. I regret a,lot of mistakes i don’t in the past, I’m not the,same person anymore I feel so guilty for all the bad things I done in the past, now I have a family and I just want to move on, and forget about the past.

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  33. I regret being a big hearted warm loving generous person to those around me, it has served me nothing short of a life void of what meant the most. This is a bullshit course of the selfish, lazy and manipulative always winning in the end day in and day out. I wish I was never born

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    • I’ve had similar thoughts in the past, Laura. We give and give, but it seems those around are keen to take without a care of our feelings. It’s the risk a good person takes. I don’t know you, so I can’t say much. I do know that I have felt the same more times than I’d care to admit. It’s easy to become bitter when we feel so strongly and give to uplift others, only to be disappointed again and again. I tell myself that if I become bitter and disillusioned, then I might one day cause another to cross the line and follow my path. My bitterness would only serve to destroy.

      I would think that there’s still a part of you that wants to care in spite of this mistreatment. I think that you’ve been severely hurt and used by ones who claimed to care about you. I don’t know you, but I’m glad you were born. I don’t need to know you to feel that way. You’re alive. You feel. You have something to offer and give, even to this day. I hope that you one day rediscover that being warm, loving, and generous is a priceless asset. Not a liability. This world needs more givers like you.

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  34. I regret never telling my grandmother I loved her. She died three months ago, and though we were not very close, I had found out that she had kept photos of me and my sister in frames all around her house. Every day, I regret this and makes me feel guilty.

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  35. I regret not going to my grandfathers funeral in England. I could have gone, but my parents told me that it was a stupid idea since it was at the end of the Christmas holidays and my mom was the one that was going to go. I feel like he wanted me there and I wasn’t able to say goodbye.

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  36. I regret not telling my best friend that he still had a piece of my heart from when we were 14,
    I’m nearly 18 now and he would have been 20 next January,
    He died tragically last October.
    I still love him,

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  37. I regret allowing our eldest son to live with his father, at his request, when we divorced. Our youngest son stayed with me. We both remarried 9 years later. The main reason I remarried was to give my sons the stability of a family home, it was not a marriage of love quite the contrary. My eldest son would visit every 2 weeks and I wanted to show both my sons what a good family home could look like.

    Just 3 years into this marriage, my eldest son was involved in a car accident, which killed his best friend and my son’s girlfriend, who I had taken home the previous night. My son was on life support for over a week and it took months for him to walk again. The youngest son took it really hard and almost 12-months to the date of the accident he walked out of the door, did not return and it took me 15 years to reconnect with him. It appeared he had connected with his biological father who told him stories that were quite untrue, hence the reason he did not wish to be part of my life anymore.

    I regret that I entered a loveless marriage to accommodate my children. Three years into the marriage they were no longer part of my life, none of which was under my control. The individual I married was older and prior to the marriage had informed me that he was really looking for a companion for life, who would be totally self sufficient financially and required no assistance in this area. He did not want to live together but wanted to be married. We made a pact that his role would be to ensure my sons had a good family atmosphere when they visited or stayed with us and we would not show them the real scenario of our relationship. In turn I would always be financial independent for myself and sons. Today I still am, 25 years later.

    He is now 80 years old and I do not have the heart to leave him BUT I truly regret not doing it sooner, missing the intimacy of a real relationship for all these years. F/66

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    • It sounds like you’ve lived an eventful life. My heart goes out to you. I want to say that, despite your regrets, I find myself in awe of your self-sacrifice. You did what you thought was best, and strove to provide for your children in spite of the cost to you. You’ve lost a lot; I can’t imagine the pain you must feel. I don’t know if this will be of any help, but I always tell people that regret is a mark of distinction. To hold yourself accountable, even if what occurred was out of your direct control, shows maturity and thoughtfulness – a willingness to change and grow and evolve. I admire your character and strength.

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  38. I regret not speaking to my bestfriend for 2 years because he tried to give me flowers on my birthday and trying to hint his crush on me. How childish it was! For those 2 years he never stopped talking to me and would approach me for small conversations which i ignore. When i realized after those times how genuine he was. I was too late.

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  39. I regret leaving the man who was the love of my life for my ex who ruined my life. He was everything I had ever wanted and we worked so well together. But my ex said she still loved me and despite being done with her, she still managed to manipulate and control me. I was living and working with her, completely dependant. I was afraid she would fire me. So I broke up with the man of my dreams and became the most I’ve ever been depressed in my life. Now 3 years later, I’ve left the ex. The man of my dreams has moved on, is engaged and is expecting his 2nd child now. And all I can think is that should be me. I’m still heartbroken over him and the pain of the regret is still as fresh as the day I made that horrible decision. Now I’ve gained weight from being depressed. I think the only thing that will make me feel better is to lose weight. But because I can’t say this anywhere else, I love you S.A.W. and I always will.
    Female,24

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  40. 30 years ago I regret not having coffee with the pretty girl who invited me. I regret not having the balls to tell her I didn’t like coffee, but I liked her. Dumb ass decision at 17. I always think about that and the look of misunderstanding in her eyes. I wish I could tell her it wasn’t about her…

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  41. I regret that I was so broken after my marriage ended that when I met you I just wanted to be “taken care of” and I should have never started our relationship, 14 years later I’m stuck and I can’t get out, I have dealt with years of drug use, you lost a good job over 6 yrs ago because of your decision to use drugs, and to this day still don’t have a job, so I am forced to support both of us and can barely support myself, I have lost friends, I am alienated from my family, it’s a very short list of those I family members that haven’t passed away, and I have no contact with any of them due to something you have done, not that I would be “allowed” to talk to them anyway. You constantly accuse me of infidelity when that couldn’t possibly happen because you know where I am every second of every day, I believe you are just as miserable as I am but you have nowhere else to go, I believe I will die at your hand, you tell me at least once a day how you are going to put a bullet in my head, I believe you are just psycho enough to do it, I hate you more and more everyday, and I wish you kill yourself so it could finally be over, I probably wouldn’t even shed a tear that’s how much I hate you

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  42. I’m really upset with God. First he allows my stepson to be murdered, he allows my brother to get Parkinson’s young, and now In the same six months I am told my dog is going to die. So what the hell is going on? His much can a person take!? If you’re there dear Lord could you please choose someone else ? Feeling so helpless and can be used and questioning you!

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  43. Is there ever going to be another day where I can truly be happy and in love without being let down, dragged down and have my face covered in the lack of concern or care ever again…what did I ever do so wrong to deserve this life …
    No matter what I do…it makes no difference…people r deceptful inconsiderate and self serving., The only ones that seem to see value in my r temporary users, or challenged in some way and aren’t right in the head. The ones who I can’t get to move on r the ones whom I don’t feel a real connection with and the ones I do…don’t appreciate me.. I see other people having strong happy connections that last for years or life…yet I can’t even seem to find ONE true blue friend…not to mention love connection. I so wish I could go back in time and live my life differntly

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    • I understand how you feel. This world can be ugly and horrific. Life seems like an uphill battle that has no end game. Friends seem only of the fair weather variety. You’re not alone with these thoughts and feelings. I would say that I’ve met more people who think as you and I do than those who don’t. You didn’t do anything to deserve adversity; no one does. That’s easy to say, but nearly impossible to believe, I understand. I’m in the same boat as you. It’s hard not to feel like a victim when so much goes wrong. I don’t know anything about you besides what you’ve said here, but I know that everyone is a mix of good and bad. There are things about you to value, and not everyone will value the same things. There will be those who value you, and those who don’t. Life is much the same. There are things to celebrate and things to condemn. It’s up to you to find what’s fulfilling. I hope that you will continue to search for what will fill that void.

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    • Ask forgiveness from your sibling and hug him without mentioning about it. Ask forgiveness from god. Forgive e yourself.
      Be better from now onwards

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  44. I regret the youth I never had the chance to live. I lost all of my time to illness and adversity, and watched the world move onward without me. I struggle to this to day, trying to catch up, hoping that the future has not forgotten me. Even without illness to hold me back anymore, and even though I had no choice in the matter, I still regret the time I have lost. I wasn’t able to attend my high school graduation. I wasn’t able to hit any of the milestones associated with growth and advancement. I watched everyone around me grow and advance, and could only watch them leave without me. Sometimes you can regret that which you did not choose for yourself.

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  45. The only things that hurt worse than the things people do to you, are the things you do to other people. I know, I’ve been on both ends. I was bullied quite a lot in my early and mid teens, and life was hell. When I was 17 – 18 I started trying to have a social life. I was a naive and foolish kid, and I drank too much and I behaved really rudely and obnoxiously to some other kids my age. I regret my obnoxious behavior much more than the hurt of being bullied. I always wanted to be a good person, and I hate the thought of really offending anyone. That hurts me more than anything that was done to me, and awful things were done to me.

    So many of us are left hurt and damaged by our youth. It doesn’t necessarily make you an awful person. If there’s anyone you need to apologise to, try and find the courage. If there’s anyone you need to forgive, do the same.

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  46. I AM 7 MONTHS DIVORCED AND WE HAVE 4 BEAUTIFUL CHILDREN.WE GOT DIVORCED BECAUSE ALOT OF OUTSIDE INTERFERENCE AND LACK OF COMMUNICATION AND INLAW INTERFERENCE.I REGRET IT EVERYDAY AND EVERY NIGHT,I AM STILL VERY MUCH IN LOVE WITH MY EX WIFE AND I DONT KNOW WHAT I WILL DO WHEN THE DAY COMES THAT SHE FINDS SOMEONE NEW.I KNOW THAT I DO NOT WANT ANYONE ELSE AND WILL NOT BE ABLE TO MOVE ON COMPLETELY.WE HAVE AN UNDERSTANDING THAT I ATLEAST GET TO SEE MY KIDS EVERYDAY BY MY EX WIFE AND I GET THEM EVERY SECOND WEEKEND FOR SLEEP OVERS.
    I WISH I COULD TURN BACK TIME AND I WOULD NEVER HAVE GIVEN THE DIVORCE WHICH BTW WAS DEMANDED FROM ME FROM HER BROTHERS.THE BEAUTY PART IS THAT MY EX NOW SAYS SHE UNDERSTANDS WHAT I WAS SAYING ALL ALONG AS I AM STILL THE ONE THAT IS THERE FOR HER AND NOT THE REST THAT SAID THEY WILL BE THERE, BUT NOW ITS TOO LATE, ITS TOO LATE.I SOMETIMES WISH I COULD JUST CLOSE MY EYES AND WHEN THEY OPEN IT WAS JUST A TERRIBLE DREAM….TO MY ALWAYS AND FOREVER I WILL ALWAYS LOVE YOU NO MATTER WHAT…..I LIVE NOW FOR MY KIDS WITH A BROKEN HEART AND A SHATTERED SOUL.

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  47. 5 Years, countless boyfriends and a marriage later and I’m still in Love with him. I thought I’d never get over it, and without looking I found something new that gave me that same high he gave me, and I didn’t find it in my husband. To make things worse, my old and my new are both married now too, and I’m living in this meaningless lie with myself and a married man. My biggest regret isn’t saying “I Do” but I regret continuing to feel this way and act this way after marriage.

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  48. My biggest regret is me. I never ever paid attention to myself. I learned how to please everyone and fit in everywhere until I ceased to exist. I cannot reveal my true self because I don’t know what its like. I never made an effort to form relationships that enriched me, made me happy rather I did what I could to avoid being lonely. And still ended up alone. Pray for me.

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  49. I have lived a lie of a life for a decade, in a country I do not want, with a man I do not love, a child I regret having but feel bound to take care. I went through this on auto-pilot whilst trying not to breakdown from an anxiety disorder at work. A major breakdown and public humiliation shook me to core I woke up from this sleep, found my soul yearning for life and discovering feelings I had suppressed for years. Opportunities opened up to me, and for 2 years I shied away and realised what kept me in my dark dungeon was still there. I am still here, not living. I regret not growing when I had been reborn. Too scared to live, too scared to own my emotions – fears, hopes, dreams, hate and love.

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  50. I regret not listening to my mom. IF ONLY I would have listened and stayed living with her instead of moving in with my dad, my life would be SO different. I could be a nurse like she wanted. Have a high school diploma instead of a GED. Went to a real college instead of an online one. Only married once instead of 4. Only had two children instead of 5. Things would have been so much easier. No PTSD, no depression, no anxiety. IF I HAD ONLY LISTENED TO MY MOM!

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  51. I regret taking for granted so many great people in my life. Being selfish and cheating on my lovers, especially my last one. I didn’t cheat physically, but I did mentally and verbally. We broke up but acted like lovers for a few years still…without the sex. So we were just friends. She finally couldn’t take the pain I caused her everyday…waiting for me to ask her to be mine again while I would flirt with other people. We didn’t speak for 5 months. In that time, I had intercourse with someone else because I craved it but I did not like him. I used him. I felt so guilty and dirty! Even though I am single, I still love my last ex and regret doing this. It makes me feel terrible. I hurt her too much and am trying to get a 2nd chance with her. I also feel bad for using this guy for pleasure, but it feels worse that it’s a secret I will keep from my love because it’ll do more harm than good. My excuse was I hadn’t had sex in years but I still feel bad!

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  52. When I was younger about 8 or 9 I hurt someone physically and emotionally . Looking back on it now, I feel extremely bad about it and I really can’t understand why I took out my feelings on this other person.I never told my parents and neither family as well…….I recently talked to the person to apologize because I felt that it was time for me to confront the situation and try to work through it.The person told me that they forgave me and that what I needed to do was forgive myself. They said they couldn’t hold it against me because I was a kid and so were they.But I still feel really bad til this day.I have been depressed and had suicidal thoughts a while back,but now I have anxiety……My issue is I am starting a new relationship with someone and I feel like this is eating at me so bad because I don’t want to keep it a secret,but I’m the other hand I don’t want to be dishonest to someone who could be in my future forever. I really don’t know how to approach this situation.

    Age 32,female

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  53. I tried to steal a cigarrette and my co worker caught me. I know shed gonna talk crap about me and I dont want to be known as the cig-stealer.

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  54. I regret having told one of my biggest secrets. I shared it with my second cousin that i was having feelings for my first cousin. I was very close with this first cousin of mine and now after sharing it with my second cousin things have gone bad.. My first cousin doesn’t talk to me.. She hates me because she used to treat me as her younger brother.. All misunderstandings that i would do something bad to her.. My regret was to ever share this kind of thing with my second cousin who promised me that he wouldn’t say it to anyone but yet he did tell her…. Its been two months since we spoke. Waiting still for her to talk to me

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  55. I regret getting married. I was too young and now I’m surrounded by people who seem to believe that the fact that I’m taken advantage of is my own fault, because I was the only one around who seemed to have a heart towards a guy whom everyone else would turn their back on and leave him to struggle and hate living everyday desperately trying to be truly cared about dispite his challenges. Instead of people realizing that although it may be the norm to take advantage of people around you as survival skills, but when it comes to those who treat you right and you say you care about, instead of taking advantage every chance you get, at a certain point in my opinion decency and goodness should somewhere come into play with at least a small level of maturity and years, to make a choice to not take advantage and show a return of a more equal nature. Not just keep choosing TAKE. The sad thing is I never seem to meet even one other guy who isn’t just as selfish unless he is forced by a more selfish woman.

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  56. My biggest regret is giving up my dog. I raised him from the time he was 3 months old. I gave him up 8 years later. The only family he has known gave him up. I will regret this decision for the rest of my life.

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  57. I regret not being the mom I know now I could have been! I regret not being there to protect them and nurture them so they would have confidence to go through life successfully without doubt!

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  58. I regret that I cheated on my long-distance girlfriend. It was such a brief and stupid thing in which I have gained nothing but pain, insomnia, and extreme guilt. As well as feelings of suicide. She is the love of my life and I want with every inch of my body to be honest with her about what happened but I’m worried that it will ruin her life and so I can’t say anything. I’m a coward.

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  59. I regret my last suicide attempt and that my kids were the ones who found me. Though, I am thankful that I was found in time. I hate what my struggle with mental illness has done to my amazing family. I regret the promise I made to myself and them to stand up against the skeptics and take a stand for other survivors. I regret that I never met CCS and SAM before they died. I regret the extramatrital relationships that I got involved in during my struggle with my illness. I regret that I allowed one my children to be the kind of caretaker I was with my mother before she died of cancer and the debilitating effects it is having on my daughter’s adult life now.

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  60. I regret getting drunk and cheating on my wonderful boyfriend. I love him so much and don’t ever want to lose him. It was 30 minutes of stupidity and I can’t believe I made such a poor decision that could ruin the amazing, pure and real relationship that I have.

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  61. I regret cheating on my boyfriend. We are in a very committed relationship of two and a half years. Recently, I was drawn in by a coworker and I found him very charismatic and charming. My boyfriend was away for work for about 2 months and I found companionship in my coworker. He paid attention to me, made an effort to talk to me and see me, complimented me and went out of his way to spend Time with me. I knew he only wanted one thing and I should’ve stopped it, but I didn’t. I let it go too far. I kept it a secret from everyone. No one knew except me and him. I tried to read articles about why I shouldn’t tell my boyfriend and they worked for a bit. But it got to The point where reading them didn’t help. Yesterday I couldn’t take the pain I was feeling inside anymore. I felt like I was being weighed down 24/7. I couldn’t eat, sleep, concentrate, anything, which had been going on for weeks. I wrote my boyfriend a note explaining everything. I felt like I NEEDED to give it to him. Before I did so, i broke an agreement I had with myself to tell no one. I told my best friend in the whole world. She revealed to me that she too had been unfaithful in her relationship once. After telling her, I immediately felt lighter. I am no longer dealing with this on my own. I am trying to become a better person. I know this was a one time mistake that will never be repeated. I want to spend the rest of my life with my boyfriend but I know telling him would kill him and devestate him. I have been his first everything, first girlfriend, first sexual partner, first love. And I will never be able to take back the fact I cheated on him for literally no reason. And I will regret it every day of my life.

    22, Female

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  62. I regret rejecting him twice the same day and I regret changing my mind and not letting him know when It was still the right time to do so. I regret losing my first love affair and I regret not being as brave as he was. I have felt this for 4 years now. I know that my mistake will remain as such for the rest of my life. Nothing is gonna change. Well, I hope that my attitude will change for better. One rejection is enough in my life.

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    • I must say he didn’t deserve being rejected. He was a good boy and he was very persistent. He never gave up! But my negative childish selfish coward attitude made him go away.

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  63. My grandfather was in the hospital and he had surgery for an aneurysm. He had pulmonary fibrosis.
    After the sugery, he was knocked out on a lot of different meds.
    I never went in to see him because I knew it would bother me, seeing him all hooked up to different things and asleep.
    A few days later, I went back to my home state. The next day I got a call from my mother that my grandfather had died.

    I never got to see him.

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  64. My deepest regret is not going to my best and only friend’s funeral. I haven’t even visited his grave.
    He died three years ago today and I’m still too much of a coward to face his tombstone and his family that I once called my own when mine was toxic and abusive.

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  65. I regret taking all the drugs ive taken because now I have bad anxiety and bi-polar depression and I regret hurting the people ive hurt by playing with their emotions I regret not trying to trust people that probably would be my really good friends right now, I regret being popular because everyone is fake in the popular circle. I regret to have lived long enough to see my parents have a sort of disapointment in the person ive become but still love me unconditionally.
    -Anonymous Male

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  66. I regret doing business with any large business or corporation. The one & ONLY thing they can get right & actually care about is taking my money. Anything else, like getting what you’ve paid for, is a crap shoot.

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  67. my biggest regret is letting my body image control my life, hell, it still is but I am working on it. I hate my body so much and i am really self conscious. no one can tell because usually i hide it. I wish i could change.. I guess you could also say i regret eating a lot when i get bored…

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  68. I regret not choosing you, even if you would have hurt me in the long run. Maybe you wouldn’t have and we would of had an amazing life. Now I just settled. Just always wondering what could have been. My best friend is your cousin so I will always hear your name and see your parents. Your family is my family. But you’re too far away. Now we both have children. You have a New girlfriend and getting stationed in Hawaii. I love you and probably always will.

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  69. I regret marrying my husband. we have been married for a year and a half and it’s been awful. I cried myself to sleep on our wedding night, and it’s been the hardest 18 months of my life. I “don’t believe in divorce” and don’t want to just thrown in the towel because it’s hard… but I don’t see it changing anytime either. Either way I realize that my life will never be the same and I don’t look at the world the same way anymore. what i wouldn’t give to go back and break it off before we got married.

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    • Leave before you have kids. Kids make it much harder to leave. Leave before you are back here 30 years later still in this situation. God will forgive you. Divorce is not the unforgivable sin.

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  70. I didn’t think about you for years! When your friend requested to connect with me on facebook, I saw you for the first time in so many years. I don’t obsess over you. I wish we could just meet to talk. Let me share with you what a messed up existence I was in . I was no good for anyone at the time and glad you have someone. I was surprised that you got married so quickly. I don’t care about that now. Just want you to be happy. I wish we could find closure.

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  71. I just got into a car accident at a red light because I rear-ended somebody. They were driving a rental car and there was no damage (hit them at under 5mph), so they told me they won’t bring it up when they return the car and I don’t have to worry about insurance or anything. However, one of my friends was in the passenger seat and I really care about her. I can’t stop thinking about how I put her in danger too by not being careful enough. I’m a nervous wreck right now.
    Male, 17 years old.

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  72. Grandparents should not be wasted on the young! I regret not accepting all the times they said “come visit”. NOW I get it….and all I have now is precious memories. I wish I could have understood that when I was younger.

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  73. You “probably” will NEVER understand in your 20’s that you are in the greatest moments of your life. TRAVEL often as possible. Value friendships! I assure you when you are too busy in your 30’s and when you get into your 40’s and it occurs to you that either you did it right…….or it will never come again….and you blew it. You can try to do what you missed, it will never be quite like when you were younger and less burdened….make the most of it NOW….

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  74. I regret falling for you more than ever. I thought purhaps it was just a stupid lust crush that I let consume me for much too long because if your head games. Now after meeting a pretty sweet guy and trying to get past the lust feelings for someone who had similar physical appearance now I am more sure then ever that I fell for your character of your choice of head game even more than your appearance. Although we had a mutual agreement between one another and no feelings have been hurt along with this relationship. Now I feel even more at a loss with how to find happiness within my life knowing that I apparently can only fall in love with a fake man who can’t find it in his heart to at least talk to someone sincerely and give them a chance to at least know that they weren’t just a joke to someone whom they truly loved. I can walk away knowing that someone is not the one for me and VS. But now I feel like I will never truly fall in love again, thanks to your dicetful selfish childish incompetence. I should have known better with you being a teacher… Heaven forbid a teacher in my life be doing anything but what’s in it for them! I’m so thankful my son is beyond seeing you for what u portrayed yourself to be. I praised you…and you belittled me….I recommended you…and you pushed me off into someone else to deal with. I loved what I seen in you with others…and you laughed at me infront of others. I will never really feel I can trust a person completely ever again…and you are probably living the happiest moments of your life as I shed a year and these thoughts.
    As I live out the rest of my life serving others to keep them comfortable, cause heaven knows nothing actually makes them truly happy…. I will never forget you and the lessons you taught me J. S.
    I pray that one day you might wake up, and feel an empty loss feeling within your shallow image of a heart, and come to realize that I was merely trying to be a person in your life that u might feel proud to have within it, for more than a temporary joke.
    I will be so thankful when my good deeds are done and I can walk away from this life and never have to regret looking back and smiling for moving on!

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  75. I regret destroying the relationship between my spouse and their child from a previous marriage. I truly love my spouse, but I cannot tell you why I chose to sever their relationship. I would tell lies on the child to turn my spouses opinion against the child and it worked. Child no longer wanted to come over after being grounded repeatedly over my lies. Child and the ex have moved many states away now and they have not spoken in 2+ years. Spouse will NEVER forgive me if I tell.

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  76. I regret being so nieve to believe that my life would be happy and comfortable with marrying you. I do love you, but I feel more sorry for you than anything. I regret that every day that passes more and more I feel like all I am ment to do is take care of you and listen to you complain and lay around feeling more sorry for yourself than thankful for the life that you have personally chosen to take advantage of to the point of having it back fire on you with your health. It’s feels like all I was raised and ment to do is take care of you and everyone else, who can’t or aren’t willing to take care of themselves, and yet at the end of the day, day after day, nobody truly goes to much effort to return the same care. The ones willing to are not able and those able are too selfish. I’m so tired. I feel so alone and yet my life is consumed with people always ready to pile more work and duties for me to deal with, without much thought as to when I get my day of getting away or having someone simply making the effort to make me feel good, happy or content without at some point doing something or saying something depressing or negative to hault my moment of peace and harmony for any length of time at all. I love you, but you are the main cluprit to that. I’m not even the slightest bit attracted towards you in the slightest way and yet I crave and fantasise about a warm touch and embrace that with holds intentions towards me feeling good at the cost of whatever time and tenderness it may take. You never touch me that way even when you were more well. Now you are less able than before and I’m supposed to want you and love the feeling of you touching me? Well I don’t. You gross me out beyond anything I have ever thought was possible, your touch is annoying and most of the time you end up hurting me or simply don’t get me anywhere near a true climax because I cannot stand your ways or any kind of your behavior that you expect me to ignore and still want you through. I really don’t know what to do anymore. I hate my life as it is and regret sticking it out because I felt so sorry for you. I feared leaving you alone with no one willing to care for you and help you feel happy without me. But because I stayed I am now and will probably always be the one who ends up entirely without anyone to be with, without anymore trust to truly give my heart and trust to not turn and take advantage like you and so many others do now a days. Our child would’ve had a better life had I left you before I gave birth. I didn’t think it to be true but now I know I was wrong and I can’t take it back. With all of my efforts throughout the years.. I have still failed. I failed myself, my child, my parents, the friends I used to have but have given up on me because I had you making everything so difficult. I struggle everyday so hard to see you stronger and happier so that we can all be happier together and yet that day feels like it will never come. Life is nothing if what it should be, nothing that I have tried so hard to have. Maybe if I just stop trying

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  77. One of my biggest regrets.
    I went our drinking one night with my friend. She is single and i am not.
    I was asked by someone if i had a boyfriend. Being very drunk i replied with no. He bought me a drink and tried to pull me on top of him. I realised what i had done and ran away.
    I love my partner. But i still havent told him about this and the guilt has started to eat at me.
    I regret doing something so dumb and selfish just because i wanted the attention

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    • Don’t be too hard on yourself about this. You removed yourself from the situation before anything more serious happened. Everyone wants attention sometimes and anyone can have a moment of weakness, especially when alcohol is involved. You seem like a really good person, judging by the guilt that you feel despite nothing having really happened between you and this other person. Just use this as an opportunity to examine your feelings about your relationship and try to be honest with yourself about whether there is anything that you’re dissatisfied with that caused you to behave out of character. But in the end, no harm was done.

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  78. My wonderful friend died aged 27 three weeks ago. We used to live together. His funeral took place a few days ago. I had the opportunity after the funeral to get together with all his/our friends and go back to the city where we lived for the night to make merry in his honour. Instead I went home alone because I couldn’t face the memories. I have very mixed feelings about the time that I lived there and find it painful to visit now. I had a very tough time with my mental health and was in an abusive relationship, and yet I dearly miss the friendships I forged there, especially because in the city I live in now I don’t really know anyone yet and am often alone. I thought it would just be too difficult emotionally to do the funeral and go back to the city all in the same day. I was trying to protect myself, but I regretted my decision almost immediately, and can’t get over the fact that I missed out on spending more time with people who shared my grief about my friend (and who rarely get to see each other these days), that I wasn’t brave enough to try and face my feelings about that period in my life and not let them defeat me and stop me from properly celebrating my friend’s life and being there for my other friends.

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  79. It’s so lonely being the only responsible, caretaker… No actual friends who randomly call or text… Only endless calls and beckons from those who need or want more from me to deal or do for them. I wish I knew why nobody seems to care or want to even be my friend. It’s pittiful and disturbing that everyone around me in my life are all so self absorbed to even truly give a shit unless I can do something for them

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  80. My biggest regret of my marriage… I was so hurry in getting married to him…. I thought he was perfect to me….yeah he is very nice guy and caring but there are lots of issues which is not compatible to me. I am a very Successful in my Medical profession… Now planning to settle in UK with my husband.but my husband lives there in a dependant visa under his previous wife … I didn’t know about this before marriag, i just knew he was divorced. Anyways but they are separated
    now.but my laws people treat me like i got married to him for getting access to Uk.this makes me so disgusted. I know um going on my own visa and um mrcog trainee, so getting job n living my own life is not a big deal for me.Moreover i can help my husband in Uk n he could live on my visa if i could get settled there in sha Allah. But treating me like a worthless in my laws, that breaking my heart, i cant leave my husban, cause i love him,but his family making me to hate everything about this marriage, including my husband.. Daily mental torture… I can’t take it anymore… I want to be free

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  81. I’m sorry I embarrassed you. I’m sorry I obviously embarrassed you so much that you chose to completely disappear from ever learning anything more about you even. I am feeling utterly mortified that I still care so much about you to even be content with simply learning even the basics as to how you are or what you are doing with your life, so much so to actually search you up online and realise that you have totally disappeared completely from having any possible info as to how you are never mind where. I cannot even explain the overwhelming feeling that I am experiencing right now.

    My dear god what on earth have I ever done to deserve this kind of humiliating loss in which I am apparently supposed to not feel it be affected by!

    I know that I seen you at CWL this past summer with a friend, and that you never noticed me see you.

    I just wanted to know how you were and whether you were happy in your life still.
    Why is that such a thing to be hiding from? Why do you hate me so very much to have such a horrible feeling inflicted just by wanting to know how you are?
    I haven’t stalked you, I haven’t even come in contact with you for over years now…
    Why James? Why?

    I’m not a bad person.. and I know I gave you an awful I’m angry with you look at the restraint but honest to GOD I had every right to be hurt by your reactions to me previous to that. I could’ve done much worse! I could’ve told that bad waitress to give you the same service she gave us even for heaven’s sake! But I didn’t. I even left her a tip even tho she didnt deserve it! I could’ve done so much worse…but I chose not to do anything but try to express my hurt to you in a simple way.

    I can’t even begin to tell you how wrong you are. You might be a smart educational person whom has many believers but now there is me. Now I know just what kind of person you really are!

    Someone who devastates the last person on earth that they should ever think of hurting.

    I hope you live a very long life…and never feel what I am feeling right now.
    I quite honestly hope I fall for someone else in this life who’s much more of a man than you very obviously ever were in this life

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  82. I regret taking back my cheating wife. Even tho she says she’s sorry it has killed me inside. 25 years I trusted her. Now I’m dead inside. I trust nobody. I say because she has medical issues. And our children. But I have no love. It’s gone. I will never go thru that kind of pai again.

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  83. Since I was 12 I have been growing my hair out long. It’s become a big part of my identity. I had aspirations for my hair to reach to pretty much my butt, like one long, golden curtain. It became such an important part of my identity that I would have bad dreams wherein my hair had been cut, and I would wake up freaking out. I hadn’t been to a hairdressers for seven years.
    Up until a week ago, my hair was about waist length. For reasons I won’t go into, I decided to get a full fringe (bangs, if you’re American). I’d worn a wig with a fringe many times and it had always suited me so I assumed it would look like the wig and all work out.
    Big mistake. I hate it. It looks okay when I do my makeup and whatever, but I really can’t vibe with it. I feel like a big chunk of who I am as a person has been removed. It might sound dramatic, but it’s really affected my happiness and confidence. And I’m stressed because it will take forever to grow back to how it was before, and even longer to get to my goal. I lie awake at night wishing I could go back in time and stop myself. It just really gets me down. I’ve never regretted anything more. I’m never cutting my hair again.

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  84. I am torn. I have 3 beautiful children. My wife is attractive and personable. Have been married for over 20+ years and I know that you slept with my friend. I blame myself because I gave you the benefit of the doubt. Now that I am older and can cut through BS, I know you did it. I would never have married you.I told you I couldn’t if it were true. It consumes me. Time does not heal. I regret not dealing with this. I am so stupid. I knew better but listed to me heart rather than my brain.

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  85. I regret for not being able to explain my fiancee that I feel he is drifting away from me,I used to love him a lot but he was never there for me.
    In order to overcome my loneliness I went close to my colleague and eventually slept with him( unwanted), I was drunk and couldn’t stop him from keeping his hands off me..he forced himself on me and I surrendered.
    I still love my ex fiancee..its been 3 yrs since our breakup and I am married to someone else but still I want to go back to that time and correct things.
    My ex fiancee didn’t knew that i slept with someone else but he got the idea that I have someone in my life and he broke our engagement.
    I hate my colleague and I want to kill him..he came forcefully into my life..my bed..he knew very well how lonely I was and I am engaged ..still he came..
    Dear girls and guys,
    Never ever ignore your loved once, they might fell in a trap woven by another person, who wants them. If you are unavailable for some reasons give them a proper reason, ensure they get emotionally stable.

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  86. I regret going to do a PhD after I had a 1st class degree and 10 years industry experience with high profile companies and good money.

    I persisted for 4 and a half years with a difficult supervisor relationship and a subject different to what I’d been told, having some sense of loyalty. Finally I had a breakdown and suspended.

    I met with the head of graduate school who promised me a quick return with a new supervisor but within a week she unexpectedly resigned and there was no one to act on my behalf while I was unwell.

    I did nothing for a year and then withdrew. I haven’t done any proper work now since withdrawing, nearly 4 years, and my work during my PhD counts for nothing in industry. I have little money and I’m now 56. I recently offered to work for free for a company that had offered me work in the past, but they said the field has moved on.

    No one anywhere advised me of the pitfalls let alone that trying for a PhD could potentially wreck a good career. Guess I should have known.

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  87. I regret my behavior towards people. I’ve met some amazing people over the years, but most of them are gone now. We lost touch because of my inability to maintain friendships like a normal person. I always mess up in some way. I always wanted to be popular or at least have a great social life. Today, I lack it. I’ve come to terms with the fact that it mostly likely wasn’t meant for me. I was meant to be alone.

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  88. I regret I will never experience the first crash again because I have already met a guy. He is nice and I want this thing work, but I often have this thought when I see young people who have met each other and start to have butterflies, that I will never have this first feeling again.

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  89. I regret not being there for my best friend and for being vindictive when he came out to me. I had had a major crush on him for basically all of our four year friendship but that is no excuse. I ruined our relationship and I regret not pushing my feelings aside and letting life continue.
    Female 14

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