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46 thoughts on “Post Your Regret HERE

  1. I regret never living up to my potential. I can trace that choice to a specific assignment in 6th grade – afterwards I plaguarized almost everything, including feelings for others, including my 30 year marriage (which I also regret). Sometimes the reason a marriage lasts 30 years is just because you never got divorced, and when you want to, you can’t do it financially. So a life wasted, for the most part. Sometimes I’m fairly sure I’m a sociopath (no remorse, mimicing others behaviors) but then I realize I’m not because there are those in my life I love and I spare them from knowing the real me. I’m fine whenever life is over because it seems overwhelmingly pointless.

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  2. I regret from al my heart of destroying my ex boyfriend’s life. We were together for 3 years. we had a age gap of 14 years. he was a divorsee. We were in love. Suddenly all changed. I went on a trip with my friends. A guy proposed me for marriage and i thought it would secure my future. I came back.. i behaved very badly with him and also told him i cannot marry him due to family pressure. I asked him to marry someone else for his fmily sake. 6 months later, i realized i truely loved only him and wanted to go back. He fought with his parents to marry me. His mother went into shock because of the fight. Now he has agreed to his parents choise despite he loves me. Today… i can see him miserable. He has withdrew himself from everything. He does not talk to his friends. He doesnt meet them. He just goes to work and comes back. He is ready to marry someone whom he hasnt even seen. He is just living for the sake of living. The only person he talks to is me. I wish i wasnt selfish. I wish i did not do what i did. Its killing me everyday. I try to commit suciide everyday. but i fail. I dont have any courage. I am just a waste shit in this world.

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  3. I regret my entire life, I regret not telling my parents the girls next door did things to me and it’s effecting me 10+ years later, I regret every person I’ve ever dated they all treated me like crap, I regret staying with one and wasting 7 years of my life!! I regret leaving him with everything i had worked so hard for he should have started from scratch not me. I found someone I loved who had to leave overseas but I met someone knew 5 years later and it’s been a shit show the entire time, one baby later, a thousand struggles and his gender dysphoria killing our relationship. I regret everything so far in my life

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  4. My biggest regret is not having an abortion 7 years ago,I wasn’t ready to be a mother,i was just afraid id never get another chance to have a baby.
    I didn’t want to end up like my mom and the thought that I could be better than her pushed me to keep my son.
    But I’m not better than her,perhaps I’m worse.
    Now I’m stuck in a marriage with a man who resents me ,I feel trapped and want to start over but I’m tied down to my obligation to my son.
    My son is scare of me because of my temper and very unhappy.
    If he didn’t exist my life would be different ,if he didn’t exist he wouldn’t have two miserable people for parents.
    Female,28

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  5. A little less than a year ago i was driving home late at night no street lights when i accidentally hit a lady who was laying in the road cops said it wasnt my fault she was most likely hit by someone else who took off but from the second i got out and realized what i had done the guilt will stay with me forever the first couple months were the hardest after finding out every detail about this woman i could from her young daughter to her mom who had lost a son as well some years ago and listening to everyone tell me its not my fault and i should just get past it and i kinda did for awhile after the first couple months went by things kinda settled down until recently i happened to be driving down the same road it happened same as i had done countless times before i swear i saw her laying there again and i froze as it all came back to me now i cant sleep when i do i have nightmares and ive started to zone out at random times and it replays in my mind its all i think about now. the guilt and shame is all consuming

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  6. I was a young haole girl trying to survive in urban Honolulu. Worked 12 hours as a topless dancer/cocktail waitress at a dive a near Pearl Harbor, then drove a couple of my co-workers to an after hours club where they danced naked. That’s the place I saw a woman smoke a cigarette with her punani [vagina]. One night there were a group of really really old local neighbor island men. It was one gentleman’s 92nd birthday. They were ancient. His friend took me aside and asked me if I would go to a hotel with their lifelong friend. Even though they had told him that I wasn’t one of the girls working the club, he only wanted to spend time with me. I was young and sexy and working in the sex industry. But I said ‘NO’ and I regret till this day that I didn’t give that old man the Aloha and attention he deserved in his final times. It would have been a privilege. I missed a golden opportunity to make a beautiful difference in the life of another.
    Female, 65

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  7. My biggest regret is getting married to an emotional abusive man. A narcissist. We dated from the time I was 13, he was 16. Even as we dated, there were more tears, than happiness. I could never break up with him, because he would emotional draw me back in. He would say he was going to kill himself, without me. Couldn’t live without me. He also was very insecure and possessive of me. If I talked to another boy, he was mad. Very mad. But would also cry and tell me he knew I was going to leave him. He took me from my friends and was mad if I ever I to do anything with them. I quit sports, because he couldn’t stand the time it took away from him and he always thought iwas cheating on him, when we were away for sports. Or really anytime I wasn’t with him. Somehow, we got married and had children. And aside from our children, I wish I’d I never married him. It’s been 25 years. And I still want to leave. And he STILL says he’ll kill himself.

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  8. My biggest regret is speaking out.
    I have been sexually assulted for over a year by my ex boyfriend. I had always planned on abstinence and was hurt when in the end I didnt get that. But I stayed with him and kept it all to myself. Now I am in the army and one day after it happened again I cried to a friend of mine who told a higher up in my company. I was asked if I wanted to file a report and I said no. Later when that higher up came to me, he tricked me into saying it wasn’t consensual thus he filed the report for me. Taking the situation out of my hands and having an investigation start without my consent. Which to me is just as bad as the charges placed on my ex. Now they are pursuing rape charges on him and I am stuck here without my best friend and not being allowed to talk to him or see him. His whole life is ruined because I said anything to begin with. Our whole life is ruined. I still love him, and it is fucked up that I only realize it now.
    I wish I never opened my mouth.
    19, Female

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  9. I regret the times I was a monster, a bully, a manipulator. I regret believing so often, that the situation was at fault, not me. I regret that my sons have to live with the consequences of my being a great mom one day, and a monster the next, an equation that equals: bad mother. I regret not being able to find a way to destroy the monster in me. I regret clinging to my regret. I regret not being able to find the courage to tell people who like me now, just how bad a monster I was. I regret living this current life, this lie, where I can’t tell my story because it’s not just my story, but for still wanting to, planning to, writing in secret, selfishly, for the slim hope explaining things from my perspective offers of my own redemption. I regret that my motives are still those of the monster, still selfish. I regret wanting relief from hating myself, when I don’t deserve it. I regret wanting redemption, no matter the seriousness crime, in the form of a close relationship with my sons. For wanting everyone to get over it so I can. I regret, seriously regret the things I did that resulted in my doing a life sentence away from them. They are right to distance themselves from me. I regret not really meaning what I just wrote. The truth is, deep down, the monster believes she has been tried unfairly, circumstantially, and has not been given a chance to point to the situation as the real culprit that destroyed our bonds. I hate that by saying that I’m making excuses. I regret not changing, not really, not deep down where the monster lives. (woman, 59)

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  10. My biggest regret is gaining the weight back at 18 when I could’ve kept going and starved to death. I didn’t want to be here then and 12 years later I still don’t.

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    • ❤ I think losing weight is the hardest thing! You can quit drinking, you can quit smoking, doing drugs and having affairs. You can NOT quit eating.

      I think losing weight is the hardest thing ever. It WILL happen when you're ready. It happened for me. Funny enough when I went to college I gained the typical weight. Before, I was a closet eater, sneaking into refrigerators and pantries when all in the family were sound to sleep. After a few years of college I began to see things differently. The food I was eating at 11pm, it didn't satisfy me at all. The first bite was the best, after that…. blech.

      You will get there when you are ready. I promise.

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  11. I regret standing in and up for my children when my H was a raving lunatic. Drunk and verbally even emotionally abusive. I regret fearing that if I stepped in, it would simply make it worse (for them). I regret hiding the truth, asking my children to focus on the good, reminding them that he too, was abused in many ways.

    Although my children are successful, happy, and praised by MANY, I regret not being strong enough to leave since he refused to cange.

    I. REGRET.

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  12. I regret letting a 29 year old man do sexual stuff with me when I was 16. Just over a year ago and I had a high school boyfriend (who I am with right now still) while I did that. I feel terrible and I wish I never saw him or even let him touch me. I didn’t say no I just went with it at first I wanted it and, I was gloating but my stomach drops when I think of it. I hate it and I hate him for not being the older man he should have been and just never did that stuff with me. I haven’t been able to think about sex the same because I’m filled with disgust and regret. If you’re reading this please don’t have sex with an older man while you are a minor…

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  13. I wasn’t a good enough boyfriend. I Was socially awkward and that drove her away. It is because of me doing that, She said it when i asked her about it, i’m not mad at her or anything just myself being such a dumb ass. I never did anything right and now that shes moved on and i’m still sitting here stuck on her hits like a truck. I seriously fucked up and this is unrepairable. Cant stop going back to the whole ‘its my fault thing’ but I guess that’s life.I just cant fucking stop.

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  14. When I was in fourth grade Halloween rolled around and like every other kid I wanted to have a costume that no one else had. After weeks of wondering I thought it was a great idea to dress up as one of my favourite Disney characters, Pocohauntus. Back then I had no idea what I was doing was cultural appropriation. My race stole so much from aboriginal people and completely alienised them from their own culture. Wearing their traditional clothing was a complete disrespect for them and I am so ashamed that I wore their culture as a costume. They deserve to be respected and they have suffered too much and they deserve to be brought to justice

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  15. I regret so deeply not living my life the way I want to and living it based on others. I never participated in any school activities I never went to proms/ homecomings . I never had a boyfriend and I am still a virgin . Now I am 20 almost 21 years old and i am sitting at home crying an weeping about how badly I want a good live but can’t seem to pick myself up. I’m constantly thinking about how one day I will die and how afraid of death I am. I am deathly afraid of growing old and seeing my mom grow old although it is the circle of life. I hope to pass this depression soon as I would like my happy self back any day now . 😦

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    • Get help now. That’s the first thing that came to mind when I read your post. Get help for your depression and you’ll start to see things fall into place. Trust me, I was you more than 10 years ago. Unfortunately, I didn’t seek help in a timely manner and guess what? Nothing changed. In fact, things got worse. Depression robbed me of my 20’s so I had to start over at 30. Better late than never, but it could have been sooner if I took better care of my mental health. If you don’t have support from your family and friends, speak to a doctor who can refer you to a good therapist. Also, seek a support group. The latter will definitely help you get out and socialize with others who can relate. It’s a great opportunity to make friends and you’ll feel less alone in the world. I’m telling you this to encourage you because it would sadden me to know that another person suffered the way I did. You can have the life you desire. You just have to be willing to fight for it. Don’t give up. You will win. Best wishes!

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  16. I regret losing the love of my life. I was stupid, scared and insecure and I ended up destroying an amazing relationship with a woman who was also my best friend. It’s been over 2 years and I still think about her several times everyday. I still love her and it hurts to know I may have destroyed the best thing that has happened to me in over a decade. Now, I am scared I may never be able to love another person as much as I love her. I wish I could turn back the hands of time and correct all the wrong choices I made when we were together.

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    • I understand how you must feel. After reading your post it made me feel like you took the words out of my mouth. You will find someone one day that makes you feel the way she made you feel. As will i just takes time to adjust to the fact

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  17. I regret snooping. I got the answers I wanted, but I regret I had to go behind your back to do it. I feel shame and guilt for what I did, but I’m furious that I’ve been lied to. She’s toxic and manipulative, but you’ll always love her more than me. And I hate it. F/30

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  18. I regret not doing enough to get my child back. I regret having three abortions. I regret having them out of spite.
    For years, I’ve kept those things from friends. Including a friend who is unable to have children. Friends who now have children. I have four nephews, yet, it’s hard for me to be around people who have children. The only person who knows is my mother, and she’s not here.
    F/34

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  19. I regret succumbing to temptation, curiosity and loneliness, and had sex with you. It was the best ever but whenever I have sex with my partner, I think of you. I hurts to know that you are sleeping with other people and I was just one of many. And you have moved on while I have not. We started the fire but you left me to burn in it.
    M/38

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  20. I regret not being mature and man enough to fight for you. I let a controlling and clinically depressed mother destroy us. After so many years, I still play the sound of your voice in my head. I miss our brutally honest talks and how that made us realize we were soul mates. We are both married and have moved on. I remember how sad we both were when we knew it was going to end and we talked about a reunion in Hawaii for some years after our inevitable break up. How sad.

    My secret is that I think about you often,. I miss and still love you. You will always be the love of my life. I feel constant guilt about keeping that from my wife. Shes a good woman and a great mother.

    Forgive me but I just love you still.

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  21. I regret not choosing you…

    I regret knowing in my soul that you were everything that I ever wanted and needed in this lifetime.

    I regret staying with him out of loyalty when in reality you were the one for me…

    I regret that its too late now and you moved on..

    I am grateful for you and that you showed me the possibilities of pure spiritual intellectual love and freedom.

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  22. I regret spending almost a decade with the wrong woman. She reeled me in with her manipulative charm, and once she had her claws in me, she ruined my life. She was borderline, overly jealous, a cheater, a thief, a pathological liar, a narcissist. I gave up a promising career with little chance of reviving it now. She stole my identity and stole money from me, then lied about it. She broke federal laws to screw me out of more money. When I finally left her, she stole my belongings and tried to steal my car. (luckily she couldn’t get away with that one) She was “criminally insane”… but the only one that actually saw the truth was me. Borderlines are very good at duplicity. She was my boss and she ruined my two careers, the one I wanted for myself (by taking me away from it) and the one in which I worked for her (because she slanders me when I need a job reference)

    I regret that I gave up time with good friends and time for myself to raise her ungrateful children. I regret not reporting the abuse she delivered both to me and her children. What I wouldn’t give to reclaim all the lost time and live my life on my terms. From here forward it’s all about me.

    Word to the wise…. Live YOUR life, not someone else’s.

    M/50

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  23. I regret outing my partner when they came out to me as trans. I’m in so much pain, and I didn’t know how to go on in secret anymore. I regret so much admitting weakness to my friends. I regret outing him. I regret that I let this awful secret out. But I want to live more than I want to die, and holding this knowledge and pain inside of me all alone was killing me.

    I regret not being stronger.

    F, 30

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  24. I regret leaving my first husband. He was the greatest guy, and he treated me like gold. I think about him every single day, and wish I could get together with him to tell him how sorry I feel. I’ve talked to him throughout the years, but unfortunately, he is remarried and his wife is very jealous.

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  25. I regret SO MUCH not being the sweet, kind and soft-hearted daughter my mother always secretly wanted me to be. She’s a sweetness, so amazing, so full of forgiveness for everyone who ever hurts her including me, my father and even members of our own family. She’s a hard workaholic always trying to make me gain confidence and pretending my mistakes don’t matter even if i know I’m a disappointment, a manipulative mind, a spoiled daughter and a horrible monster who holds grudges and is always evading her reality taking it out on others but not recognising my faults, someone who is always trying to look innocent or like a victim despite being aware of my double standards and my stupid righteousness.

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  26. This is less of a regret, more needing to post my secret that I swore never to tell anyone and it is giving me anxiety keeping it in.

    Backstory: My Mom is diagnosed with Anxiety but this secret is some Acute Paranoia shit… My parents divorced badly and when my sister and I were ordered by the court to visit my Dad, my Mom made him out to be a monster needing to be feared. Despite all of his past in the Navy, including things that were redacted from his records, he is still our Father and did what he could to show my sister and I that he loves us.

    Secret: My sister recently cleaned out our freezer at home (my Mom is a chronic hoarder and will never admit to it) and found a strange object: Cheek swabs of her from when she was 5 years old. Apparently some exist of me (age 8) from the same timeframe: When my parents were getting divorced.

    We think our Mom was so paranoid that our Father would kill me, my sister, or the both of us that that she saved our DNA to help potentially identify the body /bodies if either or both of us disappeared.

    I agreed to never tell anyone but my anxiety is too high and I needed an outlet.

    I HATE coming from such an abnormal family.

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  27. I regret these feelings I have for other people while being engaged to someone else. I can’t help it, and it eats inside me… I never want to cheat. I’ve cheated before and I don’t want to repeat history. I’m scared that one day I’ll slip… Why does this have to be my struggle?

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  28. I kissed a girl and I liked it. I really, really liked it and I’ve been craving more for 8 years… But that’s not who I am.

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  29. My biggest regret is not listening to what the love of my life was trying to tell me. I know i can’t blame myself completely but I feel i just wasn’t wanting to listen. Now i look back and of course i wanted to listen her and her feelings. I just didnt understand what was being said. I am 36 and she was the first woman i truely fell in love with. I regret not trying to make it easier to talk to me or offering for us to go to counseling together. I look back every day since we broke up and think about what could have been. I have lost the one person that stuck by me

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  30. i made alot of mistakes in life many by choice or on purpose recently i regret throwing 10 dvds away rare ones uk region 2 all speically michael man.miami vice & collateral 2004 of tom crusie.damn ill never forgive myself for this stupidity.throwing things away in garbage becasue i have ocd.i will forever regret. that,i feel like what was i thinking.i feel sad.

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  31. I regret that when I was younger, so many years ago, I touched another person younger than me, now I realized it was a big mistakes, it happened to me too, so I did not think about the consequences of that I done, now I feel remorse for that time. How can I forgive myself.

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  32. I regret a,lot of mistakes i don’t in the past, I’m not the,same person anymore I feel so guilty for all the bad things I done in the past, now I have a family and I just want to move on, and forget about the past.

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  33. I regret being a big hearted warm loving generous person to those around me, it has served me nothing short of a life void of what meant the most. This is a bullshit course of the selfish, lazy and manipulative always winning in the end day in and day out. I wish I was never born

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  34. I regret never telling my grandmother I loved her. She died three months ago, and though we were not very close, I had found out that she had kept photos of me and my sister in frames all around her house. Every day, I regret this and makes me feel guilty.

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  35. I regret not going to my grandfathers funeral in England. I could have gone, but my parents told me that it was a stupid idea since it was at the end of the Christmas holidays and my mom was the one that was going to go. I feel like he wanted me there and I wasn’t able to say goodbye.

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  36. Thank you Thank You Very much Doctor King for making my ex boyfriend come back to me. I am Cordelia Venadez from Brazil and i am putting this testimony here too because i want to share my testimony of how i was helped by a spell caster within 48 hours of contacting him. Yes, it was last week my ex boyfriend returned to me after i contacted Doctor King. My boyfriend was always going back to meet his ex girlfriend because he never really left her. Her name is Sarah. I didn’t know how it happened one day after breakfast that i saw him looking at his ex girlfriend’s picture on facebook and I flared at him that he doesn’t care about me and he was with me and still thinking about his ex although we have been dating for over 6 months. He stormed at me and left the house and never returned. I was heartbroken and wanted him to come back. I was in a nightclub with friend one evening that I saw him with Sarah there, I was humiliated that night and I regreted going there only to see him there. I went online after some days and found a testimony about Doctor King and read about him and I contacted him to help me get him back. I must say that within 48 hours, my boyfriend came back to me and pleaded for leaving me. Is this how spell works so fast? Please, if you want help, contact Doctor King too to help you at ultimatepowerspells@yahoo.com or visit his website at ultimatepowerspells.wordpress.com OR whastaspp him at +19042997034

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