SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: January 16, 2018

I regret some of my friendships. I know it sounds harsh, but a lot of people took advantage of me over the years. I plan on cutting ties with some of them this year. I deserve better and it’s a shame that it took me so long to realize it.

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SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: January 15, 2018

I regret losing my virginity. I wish I had known the power that sex has over you once you know it. I regret ever letting the wrong guy take my virginity without any promise of keeping that gift sacred. I wish I knew how that would create a spiral of insecurity in myself and in my next relationships.
29/Female

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: January 14, 2018

I’m not sure which part of my story I regret the most. I regret meeting him. I regret the whole experience. I regret how naive I was. I regret everything. I had never been in a serious relationship before. I had an older brother and thought I knew how I wanted to be treated when I got into a relationship. Of course there were multiple signs that he was cheating, but I went against my gut and chose to trust his word. It was the first time I really started having sex and I made a mistake. When I was 20 years old I found out I was seven weeks pregnant. I never thought it would happen to me. I was stupid, but I paid the consequence ten times over. He tried to convince me to have it. He put the decision on my shoulders because he knew what my decision would be. I live my life to not disappoint my family and what is expected of me. I did what I had to. It was not only physically painful, but emotionally as well and I went through it alone. A few weeks later I found out he was cheating. I stayed with him. I was mourning my loss. I did what I did, but I felt emotionally broken and didn’t want to go through it alone. I guess I hated myself and thought I deserved to be treated bad. He said the reason he cheated on me was because I chose to have the abortion, yet the messages I found were sent during our entire relationship. You dont want to believe you go through all of that for someone who doesn’t care about you. i don’t know if I regret meeting him, my mistake, my decision, or my weakness to not leave the most, but I do know if i don’t learn to not only forgive him, but forgive myself, I’ll never move on. I think I hate myself more than anything else.

-F/21

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: January 13, 2018

My mother recently passed away from cancer and I was her primary care giver. She spent her last three weeks alive in the hospital and every time they talked about letting her out I had a gut feeling that she shouldn’t come home. The last time they talked about releasing her she was going to come home on a nutrition iv and I would be trained in hooking up the bags and such. I am going to college for nursing so all of this was right up my ally, however, I didn’t want to do this. I had given up much of the first 2 Year’s of my 20’s to take care of my mom. I have cleaned up her bathroom accidents, given her injections, and unhooked her chemo from her port at home, but hooking up an iv to a bag seemed so overwhelming and I didn’t want to do it. I would now do anything to go back and hook her up to her iv to have her back here with me. My mom passed away 2 days after they wanted to release her on the nutrition iv. She passed away one week before Christmas and 2 1/2 weeks before my 23rd birthday. I wish I could go back and would be willing to hook her up to the bags. I know it wouldn’t have changed the outcome since she passed before she even got released, just wish I would’ve been willing to do that one last thing for her.

Female age 23

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: January 2, 2018

I regret not getting help for my anger issues before marrying you. I regret this because I never had a chance to be the man you deserved. When you told me you could no longer be with me I woke up and sought help, but it’s too late, we’re listing the house and separating. I wish it were enough that I’m sincere about changing and never yelling and swearing at someone again. I now know where I learned that behavior and that I can control it. It kills me to know that it all happened too late for us. Now our young daughters, you and I are in a position that I want nothing more than to fix. It’s out of my hands, but in spite of my flaws I wish you could feel my love for you in a way that allowed us to work together and grow together. I love you always and forever, and I respect how you feel. I’m just not sure I can live with this pain and guilt.
Male, 41

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: January 1, 2018

I hate the holiday season. The reason for the season is great, but I hate the commercialization of it. It makes me depressed since I have to spend money that I honestly don’t have. It’s expected of me regardless of my financial situation. I never look forward to it. I look forward to when it’s over. But, even the upcoming new year is depressing me. Why? Because I’m stuck in the same job that barely pays enough to cover my bills. So, my biggest regret is the fact that I didn’t work hard enough to get the good job with financial stability. I hope to experience true joy one holiday season.