SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: May 2, 2016

couple-love-people-romanticJust one more time I wish I could hear your voice

One more time to hear you call my name

Just one more time to feel loved, and wanted

One more time for you to call me Babe.

Just one more laugh

One more kiss and an I love you too,

Just one more dance alone in our room

One more night to get carried away with you.

Just one more time is what took you away

One more shot to numb the pain.

Addiction took over,

Just one more time, is all it took

One more time….

Just one more time, 4 words so easy to say,

One more time, a promise made

Just one more time, a little too late.

So many words left unsaid

One last time is all I had.

If I had know it would of been my last

I would of wished for

Just one more time…

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: May 1, 2016

Screen Shot 2016-04-28 at 8.13.07 PMMy biggest regret…That is sometimes a hard thing to pinpoint bit for me it is all too clear. Since the age of five, I admired my heroes just like anyone. Except mine were pro wrestlers! The way they could captivate the crowd, the good guy/ bad guy back and forth. That’s when I made the decision every kid does, whether it be a doctor or an astronaut; I wanted to be a pro wrestler! I would tell anyone that would listen that one day they would see me in the big lights performing for thousands. The years flew by and before I knew it I was out of high school and ready to pursue my dreams. But then life happened; living home with mom and getting a full time job to pay the bills. I would keep telling myself that I can do it next year, and then the next year would come and nothing. But pro wrestling is a young man’s game; you start early so you can finish your career young while you still have your health and achieve some sort of accomplishment. At the age of 30, I am here to tell you that I regret not following that childhood dream: My biggest regret is not becoming a pro wrestler and doing something with my life. Now I just need someone to invent a time machine so I can wrestle my 18 year old self into submitting to following that dream!

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: April 30, 2016

Screen Shot 2016-04-28 at 7.48.23 PMI regret that I ended our relationship before it even really got started. I hadn’t dated many men before you came in to my life, and I thought that there was absolutely no way such a good looking guy would ever fall for me. I wish I had called you more often to try and keep the relationship headed in the right direction, instead of always waiting for you to call. I’m sorry that I threw out all the gifts you bought me after I felt rejected from one tiny instance. I wish I would have tried to be more adventurous, but you made me so nervous that I just played it safe. You were my first love, and I still think about you everyday. Now you’ve gone back to your wife from whom you were seperated from when we met, and have 6 kids together. I regret that I wish you would leave your family for me, even though I know your kids deserve to have a family. I wish that I wasn’t so selfish. I’m with someone else, who I’ve been with for 3 years and might marry soon. I feel like I’m settling, because nobody will ever make me feel inside the way you did. You lit my world on fire! You were everything I’d dreamed of, and I will forever miss you. I wish that one day maybe we can see each other, whether it’s just in passing or not. I used to drive by your house just to see if I could get a glimpse of you. It felt so wrong, but I couldn’t not take the risk. I wonder if you ever think of me. But that is probably just wishful thinking. Why are first loves so hard to get over?

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: April 29, 2016

picjumbo.com_P1000280 copyI regret basically being a puppet and a doormat. Growing up the good child isn’t exactly the best thing a kid can be when they’ve grown up with parents who want to mold the child into their image instead of teaching them that there’s more out there than what they have. Growing up, I didn’t know about things such as identity and self-discovery, no one taught me these things and I had to learn on my own. Living on my own was the first step. All of the food I’ve tasted, all of the different types of music I’ve listened to, all of the things I’ve learned (whether about myself or the world), and all of the hobbies I’ve picked up to make this otherwise depressed college kid happier. I love you mom and dad, but you could have done better.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: April 28, 2016

Screen Shot 2016-04-28 at 7.16.14 PMI regret that I checked out on my husband and allowed my job/career take top priority over my home life. My husband left me two months ago and I am devastated. He is the love of my life and I was too checked out to realize what I stood to l lose. He wants nothing to do with me, and I don’t blame him. 15 years of being together and 10 years of being married is all over and it will forever be my biggest regret.

What people are saying about Secret Regrets…

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I had the opportunity to present the Secret Regrets LIVE program to students at The University of Northern Iowa this week, and was overwhelmed by the welcome and response I received. At the end of my presentation, I invited students to anonymously text me their regrets, and then I read them aloud. It was a very powerful demonstration of the regrets we struggle with.  I would like to share a few of the comments students left with me:

  • “Thank you for giving me a chance to anonymously share my regret. I needed to say it — and hear it out loud.”
  • “Just hearing your presentation has changed my life. I feel so much better letting my regret out!”
  • “I read your first Secret Regrets book and loved it… can’t wait to read the second one. I really got me thinking about my life while reading it. I was having a hard time a while ago, and I found your Secret Regrets website on Google. It’s really crazy how I had the chance to actually hear you speak in person! Thanks!”
  • “Hearing you speak about Secret Regrets was an eye-opening experience and really helped me get past several regrets. Thank you so much!”
  • “I never realized admitting a regret could be so freeing. Thank you for reminding us that it’s important to remember that our experiences do not define us!”
  • “Thank you for inspiring me to move past my regrets and look towards a brighter future. “
  • “I really did feel better getting my regret off my chest. Thank you for providing that opportunity!”

Consider bringing the Secret Regrets LIVE presentation to your college, community, organization or company. Contact Kevin  for more information.

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: April 20, 2016

I regret not accepting a full ride scholarship because you said that you would join the Peace Corp if I did not marry you. I should have believed in myself. The truth is that you pexels-photoshould have encouraged me with my studies and congratulated me on my scholarship instead of giving me an ultimatum. It was selfish of you and a sign of things to come in the many years since we married. 50/F

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: April 19, 2016

I regret not telling you that I loved you. I was very young, and you were a bit older than me. I regret the way it ended between us. I missed you so much, I used to drive by your house all the time, but was too afraid to knock on your door. One day I just stopped pexels-photoseeing your car out front. I assumed you’d moved away and I tried to get on with my life. It wasn’t until about a year later that I found out the truth. I deeply regret if our situation had anything to do with your suicide. Evidently you still spoke of me frequently, right up until the end. I had all that time to make things right, but I was too cowardly and proud. I married a really nice man about 5 years ago. I remember wishing it was you on my wedding day. How unfair to my husband! I’ve recently tracked down your grave… I have all the details and a picture. One day I hope to visit it. It’s all so unhealthy and heartbreaking. Forever yours….

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: April 14, 2016

I regret I let fear of confrontation hold me back for so many wasted years. I now realize if I had faced the woman chasing my husband face to face to say I know what is going 2016_03_Life-of-Pix-free-stock-woman-bench-lake-LEEROYon it would have ended the pain of their affair 10 years ago. He lied to me it wasn’t an affair and she was actually afraid to have me confront her which is the thing I should have done. Even if my marriage failed my confidence in me would have been stronger sooner.