My biggest regret is not learning how to say no to people. I have always been someone who wants to please everyone around them. I have put myself in an unhealthy state both physically and mentally to help and please others.
Not taking my life nearly twenty years ago. Had I gone through with it, I would have saved myself nearly 20 years of a rollercoaster of misery, PTSD, divorce and being cheated on, and never finding my place where I belong. I belong in a grave. I wish I could time travel back and say “you’re making the right choice. Please do it”
I regret thinking that being sexually assaulted was my fault. I was out with my friends and I had too much to drink. After house parties and multiple bar hops – I was blacked out. My acquaintance took me to his place, I remember he offered me a glass of water but after I don’t remember really anything . I woke up in his bed and I was fully naked. I was scared and didn’t know what to do. I didn’t have my phone, lost my wallet and my clothes were flung all over the room. He was passed out . I tried to get dressed without him waking up but he did and took me back to my dorm room. He was my friend and he was always nice to me. I felt alone and I couldn’t talk to anyone about it. I would still see him out at the bars and he would try to get me to come back with him – the stupid thing is, I did. I felt like a need to make this obviously broken relationship work and somehow it would make me feel better. It didn’t and I was really down about for a long time . But once I realized it was NOT my fault, I blocked him out of my life and never looked back. It was just hard for me to believe that my friend (or so I thought) would do something like that to me. You never think it’s going to happen to you and it’s life alterning when it does. I still find myself not being able to trust people especially guys who start talking to me.
Life has passed me by or I feel that it has. I’m in my mid 50’s and I’ve never married or had children. Sometimes I’ve had regrets about this and other times I don’t. It depends on how I feel. When I hear about something terrible that has happened to someone who is married (domestic violence, child abuse, sexual abuse, emotional abuse), then I’m glad that I never married or had children. When I hear about someone who is happy with their family or a happy family, then I have regrets. Sadly it seems like more people are unhappy than happy.
I regret telling my best friend that I’m in love with her. She once told me when she was drunk that if she could like girls the way I do, that we would be soulmates. I truthfully never expected anything to come out of me telling her. She has a boyfriend and I know she’s straight but I just wanted her to know that there was someone out there that really cares for her and sees her for who she is, even when other people don’t. She told her boyfriend and I don’t know who else about it and now things are really awkward and I doubt it’ll ever be the same. I’m moving in 4 days and I want things to be okay again before I leave, but I don’t know if I’ll ever see her again.
I regret not having another child, but what I regret most about that is not listening to my instincts…and taking the advice of everyone else. When I look back on my life, that has lead to my biggest regrets, when I sought advice or validation from other people, and used that as a benchmark to make my decision I wish I had made the decision to pursue my dream of adopting, having a positive attitude about it and not relying on other people’s advice, negative comments or fears.
I regret cheating on you. Lying to you. I was so selfish and now I am paying the ultimate price. I wish I could take it all back, be different. Now you have someone that appreciates you. You are starting a new life and family with her. I am afraid for our children but I should have thought about that when I made the decision to cheat on you. There is no justification. I can’t wait for my life to end because I’ve hurt you,myself and our children so badly. I really wish there was hope but there isn’t.
I regret leaving my marriage, the grass is never greener on the other side as the saying goes. All that needs to be said.
I regret the years I refused to forgive my dad when he cheated on my mom.