“I regret that I am not strong enough to leave him, that I’m still sitting here beside him as he is belittling me and degrading me. I was adamant I’d never let a man treat me this way, and yet, here I am. My mind tells me to leave, my heart won’t get my legs moving. I have tried and tried and tried to be the very best girlfriend I could be to him for the last two years, treat him as I want to be treated, spent countless dollars on him because I thought he deserved to be treated nicely…but what I get in return is “shut up, quit talking, you’re annoying, quit crying, I can’t do this.” I regret that this one night stand turned into a full blow relationSHIT.” Female,36


17 thoughts on “SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: August 14, 2017

  1. I know a woman who passed up very good opportunities to leave her psychopathic husband. She complained how miserable she was many many times. She is recently free after 39 yrs. It took his death to free her. She appears much older than her 64 yrs. She stated that she wasted her life on him. Her choice. Good men rejected along the way. Just saying.


  2. I know how your feeling. I’m in the same situation. My heart says leave but I don’t. I don’t know why i stay in this misery. Prayers to you.


  3. “Never make someone your priority if they only use you as an option”.
    It’s a good step you at least realize you need to move on. Sometimes we think we don’t deserve better or we won’t find anyone but trust me you are very valuable and everyone deserves to be treated with at least simple kindness and compassion. Is there someone you can move in with to help support you emotionally ?
    Life is too short, trust me. I’m older and never wanted to look back on my life with regrets for choices I made and yet I do. Don’t do nothing, you deserve happiness. It will never get better so why wait ? Wishing you strength.


    • Thank you for your kind words of wisdom. Haven’t checked this until tonight, and wanted to let you know that we are still together, however, I’m starting to notice that I’m starting to disengage, and not care like I once might have. I think I’m slowly gaining strength! Thank you again❤️


  4. I am no fan of bad men, but got to give credit where it’s due. Those bad men sure know how to keep a woman by their side!
    After 40 years of observing good women stick by bad men, I have grown to realize a cold hard fact. They love it.


  5. I was where you were, maybe worse because he physically hit me from time to time. One day, I had enough and I ran, just grabbed everything I could I left. We had almost 2 and a half years together and I honestly thought I would stay with him forever. It’s been over a year now since I left and I’m now seeing a man who would do anything and everything to see me happy. Hopefully my story gives you hope that there is someone out there who is better for you and will treat you well.


    • Thank you for sharing your story with me. It sounds all too familiar. I too, was once in an abusive relationship and swore I would never do it again. As you can see, I let my heart fall for the “sweetness.” However, I’m starting to gain strength and harness my inner power because my feelings are starting to shift more into not giving a damn rather than caring too much. Thank you again and the best of wishes in your current relationship. ❤️


  6. Leave now! Don’t wait another two years otherwise you will be writing another regret by sacrificeing years with him and giving up your thirties and forth to a guy that treats you wrong. Believe me , it gets harder and harder to leave someone after being with them longer and longer. I wish you luck.


  7. You might be staying because you think that you can’t do better but YOU CAN. You might also think that you’ve wasted two years of your life and all that goes with it. You deserve better. Let this relationshit go and it will come. You’re still young, be happy, not miserable.


    • Wishing you well. I am getting stronger and stronger by the day, with every negative word or action, I’m slowly not giving a care in the world about him and caring more about myself and how strong I will be in the end! Thank you!❤️


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