SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: January 12, 2016

I am facing my 18th anniversary. I want out of my marriage so badly. My husband has cheated on me our entire marriage except for the last 3 years. My child is almost 14. I promised myself I’d stay until the day after her 18th birthday so I can do right by her. She doesn’t know anything wrong has taken place other then her dad and I sleeping in different rooms… I just say, “It’s cause your dad snores.” We don’t fight or argue. I noticed this past summer, I looked at my husband and realized I don’t love him. He’s hurt me badly over and over again. I want out of this sham…. I feel like I am lying on a grenade to delay the experience of divorced parents for my child…. God, I am breaking inside…

2 thoughts on “SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: January 12, 2016

  1. If you are really that miserable you are doing your child a disservice by pretending to be OK. She’s 14, not 4…your daughter is not an idiot. As a child of divorce I can tell you that I love both of my parents deeply, and that them not choosing to be together was the best decision for them and honestly for me as well. If they stayed together for me, and I found out how unhappy and miserable they were, I would be traumatized. You are teaching your daughter to accept unfaithfulness, misery, and martyrdom. You are preparing her to live another life just like yours. Do you want your daughter to stay married to a man who can’t be faithful and to teach her that you don’t have the right to put your foot down and demand respect? Do you want her in a loveless situation in separate rooms, lying to her kids about snoring because she fears judgement?

    For both your sake and hers, I hope you open your eyes and choose to start living your life before she’s 18. She deserves to see how strong her mom is and that women don’t have to accept whatever shitty behavior the men in their lives decide to throw at them without repercussion.

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  2. Perhaps some marriage counseling would be helpful. Open communication, mutual respect and support are essential to dealing with the hurt that has been caused.

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