SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: December 29, 2015

I regret cheating on my husband and divorcing him to be with another man. I fell in love with this other man but if I had known how complicated my life would become, I would have just stayed in my marriage. Every day I wish I could just go back in time and end my affair before it was too late. Although I feel like he deserves better than me because i had cheated on my him before when were just dating. I feel like that means I didn’t truly love him. Really I just hate the stigma of being divorced and judged by everyone. I hate having to share custody of my son.

9 thoughts on “SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: December 29, 2015

  1. It sounds like you don’t know what you want. Figure out yourself as a person instead of as someone’s significant other. Your son deserves an adult parent, not a mother who’s running around with a bunch of men and unable to stay faithful to any of them. You should never have gotten married unless you actually meant your vows. Now you’re stuck with the repercussions of your actions of being an unfaithful cheat. Start making life changes to become a better person. And stop whining about “sharing” your son, because he’s his father’s son as well and just because you ruined your relationship with your husband doesn’t mean you have the right to try to ruin your son’s relationship with his father. Grow up.

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  2. You share such a totally human experience Do you ever wonder if we are wired for seeking human sexual connection outside of society’s definition of what is acceptable? I can relate to the situation in my head, I’ve just never been brave enough, and there’s never been reciprocal interest from someone else, as far as I know, to pursue an affair. Having had a single partner sexually my entire life (you read that right, one sexual partner) I find it interesting to see regrets related to “infidelity,” when I’ve become more convinced it’s only society’s Puritanical swindle that a “successful” relationship is monogamous. I get the issue of dishonesty and how that can hurt. But I regret not taking opportunity earlier in life to have that sexual connection with a variety of people, and as I age I realize those opportunities dwindle. What I’ve traded for that adventure is some (maybe rare?) experience of being a witness to my spouse’s whole adult life, and her for my life, for a long time– But please forgive yourself for an infidelity that is likely our age’s most unnatural and biggest societal mistake–the idea that we should commit to a single soul in this world of billions–the institution of marriage for life. Sorry if I’ve offended anyone!

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  3. It is amazing how some marriage busters wish to come back.
    My ex spouse asked me to marry again 6 mo. after the divorce.
    I simply said no. Made the bed, lay in it!

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  4. Only people who have no idea what they are getting into would be ignorant enough to romanticize adultery, lying, cheating, and being a selfish vow breaker. *smh*

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  5. Absolutely everyone makes mistakes. It doesn’t make you a bad person. Thay being said, I agree with a previous comment about taking the time to figure out who you are. Be in a relationship with yourself and learn to be happy and strong. Once you do that, the rest will fall in to place.

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  6. Absolutely hillarious! U actualy think that by behaving like a selfish c**t it would be love for the other person?? Or that u marry a guy u already cheated on previously and call that love? Talk about not having a clue. Now u wine about having to abide to releasing some control over who shares time with ur own child even if it is the man who helped create him to begin with? Honestly u have serious issues girl. Sounds like u dont deserve full cusdoty of that kid even…u might get a wave of ur selfishness take hold again and starve the poor kid too. Take take take… Its all about me and my needs and wants! Ya right…GROW UP INDEED

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  7. That would have been me writing that exact same thing but I was smart enough to realize it before it was too late. I’ve been involved in the most intense, sexually and chemically charged love affair that anyone could hope for and/or imagine for the past 5 years. So much so that he got divorced for me!!! But at the end of the day I knew I didn’t want to be (and would have been) the woman writing that regret. He actually left me finally a few months ago and has moved on with someone single and available and as utterly heartbroken and destroyed as I am, I am vehemently working to salvage my marriage and move on. I really, truly feel your pain and I am sorry you weren’t able to foresee that fairy tales don’t truly exist.

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