SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: September 23, 2015

I was my sister’s bone marrow donor and power of attorney. I drove to Atlanta for the transplant and stayed a week afterward. I spent almost every moment of every day in the hospital with her (sleeping on the sofa in her room). After a week I drove home (several states away). Several days later she went into kidney failure, then cardiac arrest. The hospital inserted a feeding tube which punctured her stomach and caused sepsis. They were unable to even close the incision (which I didn’t know until I went back to Atlanta a few weeks later) – THEY LEFT HER OPEN!!! My sister endured unbearable pain and I’m sure confusion for the last weeks of her life before (after much prayer) I agreed with her medical team that although she had brain activity and seemed to respond at times, that keeping her on the feeding tube, dialysis, and ventilator was only prolonging her agony. My biggest regret? Ever leaving her side in the first place. I should have stayed at the hospital with her. She counted on me. I should have asked more questions, demanded more answers, and let my sister know I was there every step of the way. – Female 56 years old.

One thought on “SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: September 23, 2015

  1. Hindsight is a waste. We all do the best we can when we are faced with a challenge. You could not have foreseen any of the unfortunate circumstances that occurred. I’m sorry for your loss, but you need to forgive yourself.


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